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Learning to Feel Comfortable With Yourself

Sunday, August 2nd, 2026
Brooklyn Bridge at sunset. Photo by Polina Makarova.

Standing in front of the mirror, I adjusted my outfit for what felt like the tenth time. The clothes were not the problem. Nothing looked wrong, but something still felt incomplete. I changed my top, fixed my hair, and looked at myself again, hoping that one small adjustment would suddenly make me feel more confident.

For a long time, I believed confidence was something other people naturally had. Some students walked into class looking completely comfortable, spoke without overthinking every word, and seemed to know exactly who they were. I often wondered how they made it look so easy.

When I moved to the United States, that feeling became even stronger. I was learning how to live in a new country while also trying to understand college, friendships, language, and a completely different culture. Even simple conversations sometimes made me nervous because I worried about my accent or whether I had expressed myself correctly.

New York City made this experience both easier and more difficult. The city gives people space to reinvent themselves, but it can also make you feel as though everyone around you is already more interesting, successful, and confident. On the streets, I saw people wearing bold outfits, expressing themselves freely, and moving through the city as if they completely belonged there.

At first, I tried to find confidence through appearance. Fashion became one of the easiest ways for me to communicate without speaking. Choosing an outfit helped me feel more prepared before class, an event, or even an ordinary walk through the city. When I liked the way I looked, I felt slightly more capable of handling the day.

However, I eventually understood that appearance could support my confidence, but it could not create it completely.

There were days when I wore an outfit I loved and still felt anxious or insecure. There were also days when I wore something simple, barely thought about my appearance, and felt completely comfortable because I was surrounded by people I trusted. Those moments helped me realize that comfort comes less from looking perfect and more from feeling safe enough to be yourself.

Learning to feel comfortable with myself happened slowly. It was not one dramatic moment where I suddenly stopped caring about other people’s opinions. Instead, it happened through small experiences.

It happened when I raised my hand in class even though I was afraid my answer might be wrong. It happened when I started conversations with new people instead of waiting for them to approach me. It happened when I stopped changing my outfit simply because I worried that someone else might not like it.

I also became more comfortable when I stopped comparing my progress to everyone around me. College can make comparison feel unavoidable. Someone always appears to have a better internship, a larger friend group, higher grades, or a clearer plan for the future. Social media makes those differences feel even greater because we usually see the most successful and attractive moments of someone’s life, not the uncertainty behind them.

I still compare myself sometimes, but now I try to recognize when it happens. I remind myself that moving to another country, studying in a second language, and building a life in New York are accomplishments of their own. My journey does not need to look exactly like anyone else’s to be meaningful.

Writing this ebook also helped me understand myself better. Each chapter gave me an opportunity to reflect on how fashion, mental health, friendship, loneliness, and self-care have shaped my college experience. I began writing about style, but I discovered that personal style is connected to something much deeper: identity.

The clothes we choose can show parts of who we are, but becoming comfortable with yourself means accepting the parts that cannot be styled or hidden. It means accepting your accent, your mistakes, your changing goals, and the version of yourself that is still learning.

I do not believe confidence means never feeling insecure. To me, confidence now means continuing to live honestly even when insecurity appears. It means wearing what makes you happy, speaking even when your voice feels uncertain, and allowing yourself to take up space.

I am still learning how to feel completely comfortable with myself. Some days are easier than others, but I no longer expect confidence to arrive all at once. I see it as something built through small choices and repeated acts of self-acceptance.

You do not have to become a completely different person to feel like you belong. Sometimes, you simply have to give yourself time to recognize that you already do.

Takeaway

Feeling comfortable with yourself does not require perfection. Start by making small choices that feel honest to you, whether that means wearing something you love, sharing your opinion, or stopping yourself from making an unfair comparison. Confidence grows when you allow yourself to be seen as you are.


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By Polina Makarova

Polina Makarova is an English Literature major at Pace University and a Publishing Intern at Campus Clipper. Originally from Russia, she writes about student life, wellness, fashion, and personal growth while navigating college life in New York City.


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Self-Care Beyond Appearance

Monday, July 27th, 2026
The New York City skyline at night. Photo by Polina Makarova. 

When I first started thinking about self-care, I mostly connected it with things that made me feel more put together. Choosing an outfit, doing my makeup, taking care of my skin, or buying something small for myself could improve my mood and help me feel more confident. I still enjoy all of these things, but over time, I began to understand that self-care is not only about what we do for our appearance. It is also about the way we treat ourselves when no one else is watching.

This became especially clear to me during college. There were days when I looked completely fine from the outside but felt tired, confused, or emotionally overwhelmed. I could put together an outfit I loved, arrive at class on time, and continue with my responsibilities without anyone realizing that I was having a difficult day. Looking put together sometimes gave me confidence, but it did not always mean that I truly felt okay.

Living in New York also taught me how easy it is to ignore your own needs. The city moves quickly, and after some time, you begin moving at the same speed. There is always somewhere to go, something to finish, or another responsibility waiting for you. I used to think that slowing down meant I was being unproductive. Now I realize that constantly pushing myself does not always help me move forward.

For me, self-care has slowly become less about creating a perfect routine and more about paying attention to what I actually need. Sometimes that means spending time alone after a busy week. Other times, it means calling someone close to me instead of keeping everything inside. It can also mean changing my plans, admitting that I am tired, or giving myself more time to complete something without feeling ashamed.

One thing I have learned is that self-care does not always feel exciting. It can be making an appointment you have been avoiding, organizing your schedule, preparing food before a busy day, or having an honest conversation. These actions may not look as appealing as the versions of self-care we often see online, but they can have a much stronger effect on how we feel.

I have also become more aware of the way I speak to myself. During difficult moments, it is easy to become your own biggest critic. A small mistake can suddenly feel much larger, especially when you are already stressed. I am still learning not to judge myself so quickly. Instead of immediately thinking about what I did wrong, I try to ask myself what I can learn from the situation and what I need to do next.

Fashion continues to be an important part of how I express and care for myself. Wearing something I love can change my energy and help me enter the day with more confidence. However, I no longer believe that confidence begins and ends with appearance. Clothes can support the way I feel, but they cannot create inner comfort on their own.

That kind of comfort develops slowly. It comes from understanding your limits, recognizing your emotions, and accepting that you do not need to handle every situation perfectly. For me, this has been one of the most important lessons of becoming more independent. Taking care of myself means being honest about both my strengths and the moments when I need support.

As this journey continues, I am realizing that self-care and self-acceptance are closely connected. It is difficult to care for yourself when you are constantly trying to become someone else. Learning to understand my own needs has helped me become more patient with myself, and that patience has made it easier to feel comfortable with the person I am becoming.

Takeaway

Self-care is not only about improving how we look. It is also about listening to ourselves, respecting our limits, asking for support, and changing the way we respond to difficult moments. The more honestly we care for ourselves, the closer we become to accepting who we are.


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By Polina Makarova

Polina Makarova is an English Literature major at Pace University and a Publishing Intern at Campus Clipper. Originally from Russia, she writes about student life, wellness, fashion, and personal growth while navigating college life in New York City.


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Creating Comfort With Personal Style

Tuesday, June 30th, 2026
Photo by Polina Makarova. SoHo, New York City.

When people think about comfort, they often imagine relaxing at home in comfortable clothes or wrapping themselves in a warm blanket. While those things can certainly feel comforting, I discovered another kind of comfort after moving to New York. It came from creating small daily routines, and one of those routines was getting dressed each morning.

When I first moved to the city, many days felt overwhelming and unfamiliar. I was adjusting to college, learning my way around New York, and getting used to being far away from home. Some mornings I woke up already feeling stressed about classes or everything I needed to accomplish that day. Instead of rushing out the door, I started taking a few extra minutes to choose an outfit that made me feel comfortable and confident.

Those few minutes gradually became an important part of my routine. Even when everything else felt uncertain, deciding what to wear was one thing I could control. It gave me a chance to slow down, organize my thoughts, and start the day feeling calmer.

Over time, I realized that comfort is not only about wearing soft clothes. Sometimes it comes from wearing something that feels like you. On certain days, putting on my favorite jacket or a comfortable pair of jeans made me feel more prepared to face classes or stressful situations. On other days, an oversized sweater and comfortable sneakers were exactly what I needed.

Walking through neighborhoods like SoHo also changed the way I thought about fashion. I noticed how differently people expressed themselves through their clothing. Some wore bright colors and bold accessories, while others preferred simple and timeless outfits. The more I observed, the more I realized there were no real rules. Everyone had their own style, and that encouraged me to become more comfortable with my own.

At one point, I felt pressure to keep up with trends or buy expensive pieces that I saw online. Eventually, I realized that my favorite outfits were rarely the most expensive ones. They were the ones that made me feel the most comfortable and authentic. Feeling good in my clothes became much more important than following trends or wearing designer brands.

I also noticed that getting dressed thoughtfully could change the way the rest of my day unfolded. On mornings when I felt anxious about exams or deadlines, spending a few extra minutes choosing an outfit helped me slow down before facing a busy schedule. It was never about looking perfect. It was about creating a small moment of stability before stepping into the outside world.

Looking back, I think personal style became part of a larger self-care routine. Along with taking walks, staying organized, making time for friends, and getting enough rest, choosing clothes that made me feel good became another small habit that supported my mental well-being. None of these routines solved every problem, but together they helped difficult days feel more manageable.

Today, I see fashion differently than I did when I first arrived in New York. It is no longer about impressing other people or trying to fit in. Instead, it has become one of the ways I take care of myself. Creating comfort through personal style is not about buying more clothes or chasing trends. It is about wearing things that make you feel like yourself and help you start each day feeling confident and comfortable.

Takeaway

Personal style is about more than appearance. Small routines, like choosing an outfit that makes you feel comfortable and confident, can provide stability during stressful times. Sometimes the simplest daily habits are the ones that help us feel grounded, reduce stress, and face each day with confidence.


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By Polina Makarova

Polina Makarova is an English Literature major at Pace University and a Publishing Intern at Campus Clipper. Originally from Russia, she writes about student life, wellness, fashion, and personal growth while navigating college life in New York City.


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Mental Health Behind the “Perfect” Image

Tuesday, June 23rd, 2026
Photo by Polina Makarova. Arriving in New York City.

One of the biggest things I have learned during college is that people are often struggling with things you cannot see. Looking around campus, it can seem like everyone has their life together. Students are balancing classes, internships, clubs, social events, and future plans. Social media makes it look even more convincing. People post their achievements, exciting experiences, and happy moments, creating the impression that everything is going perfectly.

For a long time, I believed I was the only one feeling overwhelmed.

When I first moved from Russia to the United States, I put a lot of pressure on myself. I wanted to do well academically, make friends, adapt to a new culture, and build a life in New York City. At the same time, I was dealing with homesickness, uncertainty, and the emotional challenges that come with starting over in a completely new environment.

There were days when everything felt exciting. I was exploring the city, meeting new people, and experiencing things I had dreamed about for years. But there were also days when I felt lonely, anxious, and unsure of myself. What made it difficult was that I often felt like everyone else was adjusting better than I was.

Social media played a big role in that feeling.

Whenever I opened Instagram, it seemed like everyone was having the perfect college experience. People posted photos with large groups of friends, exciting internships, beautiful apartments, and busy social lives. Meanwhile, I was often sitting in my dorm room missing home or worrying about classes. It became easy to compare my reality to other people’s highlight reels.

Over time, I realized that social media only shows a small part of someone’s life. We see the internship announcement but not the rejected applications. We see the smiling group photo but not the loneliness that may exist behind it. We see achievements, but we rarely see the stress, anxiety, or self-doubt that often come before them.

The more people I got to know, the more I realized that everyone is dealing with challenges of their own.

Some students struggled with anxiety. Others felt pressure from family expectations. Some worried about finances, relationships, or their future careers. Even the people who appeared the most confident often had insecurities that nobody else knew about. Many of us were experiencing similar feelings but keeping them to ourselves.

College can sometimes create unrealistic expectations. There is often pressure to be productive all the time. It can feel like you should always be studying, networking, exercising, socializing, and planning for your future. While ambition can be a good thing, constantly feeling like you need to do more can quickly become exhausting.

Eventually, I learned that taking care of my mental health was just as important as achieving academic success.

For me, that meant creating small routines that helped me feel more balanced. Going for walks around New York City, spending time with friends, focusing on hobbies, limiting social media when it became overwhelming, and allowing myself time to rest all made a difference. These habits did not solve every problem, but they helped me manage stress in a healthier way.

I also learned that it is okay to ask for support. During difficult moments, talking to family members, friends, professors, or other people I trusted helped me feel less alone. Sometimes simply sharing what you are going through can make a situation feel much more manageable.

Looking back now, I wish I had spent less time comparing myself to other people. Everyone’s journey looks different, especially in college. Some people adjust quickly, while others need more time. Some people seem confident on the outside while quietly struggling on the inside. The truth is that nobody has everything figured out.

One of the most important lessons I learned is that mental health deserves the same attention as physical health. Taking care of yourself is not a sign of weakness or laziness. It is a necessary part of growth. College is not only about academic achievements and future careers. It is also about learning how to take care of yourself while navigating change, uncertainty, and personal growth.

Takeaway

Social media and college culture can sometimes create unrealistic expectations and make it seem like everyone else has life figured out. In reality, many students experience stress, anxiety, loneliness, and self-doubt. Prioritizing mental health, creating healthy routines, and remembering that nobody is perfect can make the college experience healthier, more balanced, and more enjoyable.


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By Polina Makarova

Polina Makarova is an English Literature major at Pace University and a Publishing Intern at Campus Clipper. Originally from Russia, she writes about student life, wellness, fashion, and personal growth while navigating college life in New York City.


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Is There Ever One “True” College Experience?

Wednesday, June 11th, 2025

College is often dubbed “the best years of your life” as it is filled with personal freedom, growth, and discovery. Although college brings you amazing memories and provides you the chance to learn a lot about who you are, the overall experience can be very draining and tough. 

For many of us, college is the first time we are away from the only thing we’ve ever known for the first eighteen years of our life. When we go away, we are expected to live our lives in our own way, which can be overwhelming for anyone, whether you are freshly eighteen or a forty year old adult. The pressure of college can have an adverse affect on even the most prepared and put together personality, so it’s very important to take care of yourself and know that success doesn’t have to mean perfection. 

A college student stressing over academics
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In the world of college, one of the hardest truths I’ve had to accept throughout my time is that everyone’s college experience is different. When I first arrived in college, I thought I was the most put together and prepared I could have ever been, which allowed me to have the mindset of being the staple college student that everyone wants to be. As I progressed throughout the years, I realized that there are so many different ways to do college. Some people show up with a full ride scholarship, while others take out loans due to financial stress. Some people have an amazing support system, while others carry emotional baggage. Some graduate on the usual four-year plan, while others graduate earlier or later. In college, I learned that nobody is on an even playing field and that it’s ok to walk a different walk than anyone else.

My college thus far has been anything from a “normal” experience. There have been many ups and downs. I’ve learned a lot about myself and the person I want to be through the experiences I have had, the difficulties I have faced, and the lessons I have learned and will continue to learn as I go into my final year.

When I first started college, I went into it thinking it was all about making friends and prioritizing getting the best grades possible. Although I knew there were more factors that went into college, I always thought that those were the two things that carry your college experience. I also knew that college would be physically and mentally draining, but not the extent to which I’ve experienced throughout the years. 

As I reflect on the three years I’ve been in college, I look back on all the times I felt fatigued and exhausted, simply due to the lack of sleep I was getting, the minimal movement and exercise I was doing, and not fueling myself with nutritious foods and water. Because of the demanding nature that comes with college, in large part of the academic stressors, I’ve realized that by not prioritizing these things affected both my mind and body alike. If I didn’t get enough sleep, my focus throughout the day suffered. If I didn’t take the time to go on walks or exercise consistently, my body felt stiff. If I didn’t eat properly, my energy throughout the day would decline. 

College is more than academics and social life. It’s a journey of learning how to take care of your whole self. As I enter my final year, I’ve learned that real success in college isn’t about perfection, but about balance, resilience, and gaining self-worth. Whatever you do, what your college life brings you, it’s important to recognize that you should be proud of who you are and the accomplishments you have and will continue to do. 

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Yamilia Ford is a rising senior at Pace University with a major in business management and three minors in journalism, creative writing, and film studies. Her passion for writing allows her to inspire through her own creative lens, giving people the opportunity to relate to her.


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Work-Life Balance Actually is Your Problem to Figure Out

Thursday, May 15th, 2025
Emma Grede on Diary of a CEO

The emancipation of the working class must be the work of the working class itself.” – Marx and Engels, Strategy and Tactics of the Class Struggle (1879)

Here me out. 

The uproar around SKIMS Co-Founder Emma Grede’s comments regarding employees’ work-life balance responsibilities has brought on a lot of thoughts and feelings I want to discuss.

Last week, Grede stated in an interview with “Diary of a CEO” podcast host Steven Bartlett that a healthy work-life balance is a problem for employees “to figure out.”

Concerning employee attendance and micromanagement, Grede validated her statement by saying her company has changed with the times to accommodate personal life events. “You come in, you have set hours, but there’s flexibility within your working life. It’s not like ‘Oh my goodness, such and such is not at their desk.’” she said. “The way we run organizations now is that no one misses dentist appointments or a doctor’s appointment or a haircut or their kid’s parent-teacher conference.”

While Grede received a lot of pushback for her comments and lack of sensitivity as an employer, I have to agree with her… to a certain extent. The optimist in me wants to say it was giving unintentional Marxist queen.

It’s no shocker that Americans struggle with work-life balance. Our capitalist society literally thrives off of our clocked-on hours and has trained us to believe that we are important if we are good at our job, that we are valuable, even better than others, if we sacrifice ourselves to do more for our job. It’s one thing to be a small business owner living the dream of running a bookstore cafe. It’s another to be working for a company where you’re at the hands of a manager, who is at the hands of their manager, who is at the hands of their manager, and so on. 

I don’t know why anyone would expect a large corporation or sector of the workforce to ever take into consideration their employees’ work-life balance. In a utopia, surely. But it doesn’t look like we’re headed towards Marx’s wet dream any time soon, no matter how much I, too, fantasize about it. 

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Like so many aspects of our lives, it is our responsibility to do what’s best for ourselves, especially when it’s hard. Classload too exhausting this spring semester? It’s up to you to change that for the fall. Feel like you’re spending too much time on social media? You should probably put a lock on the TikTok app. Worried about not exercising enough? I mean, honestly, who isn’t, but who is going to fix that besides you? Not your boss, that’s for sure. It’s HARD to set these kinds of boundaries, especially because it means working towards bettering ourselves for us (how selfish!), rather than bettering a company for profit. 

It reminds me of a quote by John Green: “I took some pride in ‘not fulfilling my potential,’ in part because I was terrified that if I tried my hardest, the world would learn I didn’t actually have that much potential.” I’ve seen a lot of people fall into this rabbit hole at one point or another, myself included, because there is a comfort in settling. “I guess I could get used to just being a teacher,” I used to say to myself before I applied to grad school. And the truth is, I probably could’ve just slumped into that routine of having a steady pay and set schedule despite being irritable all the time. But I knew I was stunted as a person when I was teaching, following a path that would leave me feeling limited. That doesn’t mean, however, that there wasn’t still fear in stepping outside that box and pursuing myself first.

Because of this, I do agree with Grede that, when it comes to work, no one is going to look out for you except for you. And this sentiment goes against everything a generalized American workplace wants you to think. It’s hard to stand your ground and set boundaries with work because we’ve truly been programmed not to, and doing so is frowned upon by everyone who is too far in, especially those who profit the most from your labor. If more working people start to be more strict with their work-life balance, institutions will eventually be forced to reckon with a new norm. I firmly believe this is true, as even Grede alluded to such changes in her interview. “That’s just not how we work anymore,” she said regarding an outdated lack of flexibility in work hours. 

TBT When I used to go to work sick only for balding women to talk about me behind my back.

This is one thing I love about Gen Z. If any generation has learned to stick it to the man in terms of work-life balance, it’s ours. For most of Gen Z, you literally could not pay us enough to go into work unless we really have to. I enjoy my new job right now, which is actually a rather huge thing for me to say, but at the end of the day, I will always prefer to not work. I know my value doesn’t come from a job. I know my happiness won’t increase if I overwork myself for the sake of an institution. I know any notion of “making the world a better place” can be done without a monetary profit involved. At the end of the day, I work to have money to pay for the things I need and hopefully a little extra. If I didn’t need to be an employee, I wouldn’t be! I would do pilates, volunteer, buy expensive coffee from a small business owner who runs a bookstore cafe, and run my own magazine, AKA become my own boss. I mean, that’s kind of the dream, isn’t it?

I often see people overextending themselves for jobs that don’t even align with their passions and/or come at the cost of their well-being. Even if you love your job, you shouldn’t be risking your physical or mental health, your relationships, or your interests for the sake of work. What is the benefit? So other work-obsessed people will identify you as “good at your job”? So you’ll be known around the office as “dedicated and dependable”? That’s just sad. If you have PTO time, please take it. If you have sick time, PLEASE take it, even if you just have a cold. And if you have neither of these things, but you feel burnt out and can spare a day of work without getting fired, just take a day off. “I won’t be able to make it in today. I apologize for the inconvenience.” End of discussion.

On the flip side, I know many people do not have a choice in terms of improving their work-life balance. They have to work a 40-hour work week to pay all their bills. Especially for those who live in a big city like Boston or New York, most of the time, they’re just working to pay rent and utilities. Add being a student on top of that, and it’s truly like someone materializing in front of you every two weeks with a vacuum, sucking up your entire check. If you can’t take the city out of the girl, you also definitely can’t take the girl out of the city. It’s something I’ve learned to accept. While there are ways to balance work and life, no one can say it isn’t difficult, and self-care during this time looks different for everyone. Take it easy, take a break whenever you can, and just remember, even if you are working long hours day after day, labor laws exist, and rest is eventually required!

“Disappear, babes,” Adele whispers when you clock out.

I can’t believe I used to spend so much time complaining to friends and family about how burnt out I was as a teacher when I was actually the only person who had control over changing that part of my life. Once I did, I became so much happier. Not only that, but I opened up space in my life to actually lean into my passions, such as becoming an editor and writing these blog posts (with no worry or remorse, I might add).

Until the world is ready to stop dehumanizing working people for profit, you have to watch out for yourself. I can assure you, your job will always ask more of you, and it’s on you to learn how to say no. Sometimes, saying no comes with what may look like a consequence. You may have to set boundaries and say no. You may piss people off. You may even have to give up your job and search for something better. Others may not understand your decisions. But if you’re putting yourself first, you will almost always come out on top, and the right people will stand by you. Secure the bag, and then leave! What are you waiting around for?

“A schoolmaster is a productive labourer when, in addition to belabouring the heads of his scholars, he works like a horse to enrich the school proprietor. That the latter has laid out his capital in a teaching factory, instead of in a sausage factory, does not alter the relation.” – Marx, Capital, Volume I, Chapter 16 (1867)

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Brenna Sheets is a graduate student in Emerson College’s Writing and Publishing M.A. program. Her hobbies include going on long walks, watching bad television, reading, and writing.

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Playlist Therapy: 5 Tips on How to Build the Ultimate Feel-Good Playlist

Friday, March 28th, 2025
Zoe Kravitz in High Fidelity: The ultimate playlist curator

Music is a powerful but dangerous tool. It can shift our mood and set the tone for our day. A sad playlist can leave you depressed, starting the day dwelling on the intrinsic existentialism of humanity and the limitations of love (Think Adam’s Ribs by Jensen McRae). Oppositely, starting your day with a song like OKLOSER by Doja Cat builds you up for whatever may come your way, whether it be delayed trains or people who should stop talking. Whether you need a morning pick-me-up, a stress reliever after work, or just some background tunes to keep you in high spirits, the perfect feel-good playlist is a necessity. 

‘Feel-good’ can mean a lot of things. Some songs get us through 30 minutes of full-body pilates, while others bring a sense of calmness and relaxation, like the Bridgerton instrumental covers. Curating a personalized playlist tailored to your unique taste and emotional needs is key. Whether you’re into upbeat pop anthems, throwbacks, or soothing instrumentals, the goal is to build a collection of songs that lift you up no matter what state you’re in. Conceited by SZA can pretty much fall into every kind of feel-good playlist, so I recommend starting there. After that, the notes below can help you make a personalized feel-good playlist that comes in handy any time of day. Good luck and happy curating!

 1. Define Your Feel-Good Tone

Before you start adding songs, think about the kind of energy you want your playlist to bring. Do you want upbeat and danceable tracks, or something more mellow and comforting? Maybe you’re looking for nostalgia-inducing classics or modern pop hits. Think Bless the Telephone by Labi Siffre, So American by Olivia Rodrigo, or both? 

 2. Start with Your Bangers

It’s important to start with absolute bangers in case of emergency. Have to go to work but feel like you’re going to cry? SOS, need a banger to clear up the emotions. Look for songs that make you excited and energized. Think about tracks that instantly boost your mood, primarily because they remind you of nothing and no one (We don’t want to happy cry either). These personal favorites will serve as the foundation of your playlist. I immediately go to Elian’s Revenge by Leikeli47. You’re drivingggg down Martin Lutherrrrr, it’s half past midnightttt, and you dial my numberrrrr…

3. Mix Up the Genres

Variety is chef’s kiss. Make sure to blend genres—pop, rock, rap, indie, R&B, etc. Mixing things up keeps the energy dynamic and engaging. Maybe Material Girl by Madonna followed by Buy U a Drank by T-Pain. Oye by La Sonora Dinamita followed by Play the Greatest Hits by Wolf Alice. The combinations are endless.

Me when I first was gifted my trusty Beats a while ago

 4. Choose Songs with Positive Lyrics(?)

Mmm, debatable. I say choose songs with lyrics that are strictly not sad to you personally. Yes, feel-good playlists should have uplifting, encouraging, and humorous lyrics that make you feel empowered and happy, but not all the time is that the case. The main point is to avoid songs with sad or overly dramatic themes. For example, Ordinary Girl by Hannah Montana is a very positive lyrical song, but it’s an absolute tear-jerker for me now that I’m not 10 anymore.

5. Incorporate Some Nostalgia

Speaking of Hannah Montana, sometimes nothing brings instant joy quite like a song that transports you back to an exciting time in your life. Throw in some childhood favorites, classic hits from past decades, or even guilty pleasures you secretly love. Nostalgic songs create an emotional connection and add a personal touch to your playlist. Try Knock Out by Lil Wayne and Nicki Minaj. 

Here’s my current feel-good playlist on repeat:

My fav pick-me-up songs at the moment
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Brenna Sheets is a graduate student in Emerson College’s Writing and Publishing M.A. program. Her hobbies include going on long walks, watching bad television, reading, and writing.

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The Mental Health Benefits of Being a Girl’s Girl

Thursday, March 20th, 2025

A few months ago, I wrote about how women perpetuating the patriarchy was taking a toll on me (as if it were new information). I was frustrated by the way I was being objectified by men and women alike, belittled and dumbed down into something along the lines of a rom-com side character scripted by Richard Curtis. I have lived long enough to know that when that happens, someone is simply projecting their own insecurities, but by god is it still so incredibly annoying. 

The truth is I don’t blame women, or men for that matter, for being insecure. The pressures we face today are unimaginable, and the standard of beauty and overall being is simply unattainable. If you’re not living off brand deals and traveling the world, are you really living? If you don’t have abs like Glen Powell, what kind of girl even wants you? And if you aren’t on the list of Forbes 30 Under 30, have you even found a purpose in life? It’s absurd what we compare ourselves to rather than appreciate all we’ve done. 

Societal pressure has left us all insecure at one moment or another, and it’s nothing to be ashamed of. The point is how we handle that insecurity of ours. Maybe you’re insecure about your body type because the world has told you it doesn’t compare to Charlie’s Angels, but does it really make you feel better to comment “Jeez, put on some meat” under an influencer’s bikini pic? I may not blame anyone for feeling like they don’t measure up from time to time, but I will 100% blame women for putting other women down just to feel good about themselves.

According to Her Campus, “A recent social media phenomenon, the term ‘girl’s girl’ is used to describe women who support other women through every aspect of their lives, and not just the women directly in their lives either.” To be a girl’s girl takes active work. It involves dismantling the competitiveness and insecurities society has propelled onto us, which can be incredibly difficult when it comes to things we’ve been taught all our lives. 

My mom: the ultimate girl’s girl

If you’ve been so fortunate as to have primarily healthy female friendships all your life, you may think to yourself, “Well, I know a lot of girl’s girls, and I thought most girls were girl’s girls, so just how many aren’t?” You’ll be interested to find that someone calls a woman a ‘slut’ or ‘whore’ on X (formerly Twitter) almost 10,000 times per day, and half of those comments are from women, a 2016 Washington Post study stated. More interestingly, The Workplace Bullying Institute found women bully other women up to 80% of the time. And if it couldn’t get worse, a 2020 study by the United Nations found that about 90% of men AND women “hold some sort of bias against women, providing new clues to the invisible barriers women face in achieving equality, and a potential path forward to shattering the Glass Ceiling.” The truth is, the world needs a LOT more actual girl’s girls, not just performances.

It’s important for us as women to remember that being a girl’s girl extends far beyond just watching another girl’s drink at the bar. It’s in the way we speak to each other, the way we act with each other, and the way we stand up for one another. It’s in the way we stop ourselves from falling into sexist rhetoric, from using gender as an insult, from objectifying each other more than we applaud one another. Like the scene from Mean Girls, I’m sure we could all raise our hands and admit we’ve said things we regret about another girl. You’d think, though, that once we reach Ms. Norbury’s age at the latest, all the weird ‘girl-on-girl crime’ would just… fizzle out? 

In our 20s, it seems to just take on more forms. A random back-handed compliment from a friend here, an insulting up-and-down glance from a stranger there, A humiliation fetish disguised as a joke everywhere! Not to mention, it’s SO second-hand embarrassing for me and for everyone I tell afterward (Yes, I will absolutely gossip about the hurtful thing you said to me. It’s my way of coping). You should see the grimaces and furrowed brows that glide over everyone’s faces, the cringes and widened eyes that follow suit, and the “Um wtf!” texts that fly in like clockwork. If non-girl’s girls knew they came off this way, would they change their ways, like Regina George? Or would they still play victim, siding with misogynists, calling women hormonal b-words? I’d like to think they can still be saved.

Tally: another ultimate girl’s girl

If we support one another, uplift one another, and stand up for one another, it won’t only make us better people, but actually make us feel better, too. A study from the National Institute of Health states, “Friendships among women can provide critical social resources and promote overall wellness, feelings of self-worth, and empowerment. Findings from studies that examine these relationships among women indicate that the quality of friendship support is more important than the mere number. Supportive friendships, which are characterized by intimacy, nurturance, loyalty, and prosocial behaviors, are associated with heightened psychological and physical well-being.” 

Being a supportive girl’s girl is so important, especially in a world that has always been and still is against women. Uplifting other women creates a sense of community, which means we’ll have more people to hear us out and learn from in times of need. Hyping up our friends and strangers also shifts our mindset away from toxic comparison, because life is hard enough without mentally competing in a game no one actually wins. Plus, acts of kindness release feel-good hormones, so we’re not just being nice—we’re chemically hacking our own brains into happiness. At the end of the day, why make enemies out of the very people who could be your biggest allies?

“I love my husband, but it is nothing like a conversation with a woman who understands you. I grow so much from those conversations.” – Beyonce

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Brenna Sheets is a graduate student in Emerson College’s Writing and Publishing M.A. program. Her hobbies include going on long walks, watching bad television, reading, and writing.

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Ashwagandha and Goji and Rose Hip, Oh, My!

Thursday, March 13th, 2025

I was recently watching the Real Housewives of Atlanta, season 15 (I know, I’m behind). There was a scene where the girls were dishing out some gossip, not over tea or coffee, but instead over Vitamin IV drips. It was a peculiar sight, but not one I hadn’t seen before. The reality stars of Selling Sunset also had a very similar scene. Still, I can’t get past the casualness of it. It reminded me of Secret Lives of Mormon Wives where they all meet up to gossip at the Botox office, inhaling the laughing gas like oxygen. Okay, maybe that one is a little different, but whatever happened to talking crap at the nail salon? Or while grabbing some appetizers? More than likely, I’ve simply become too exposed to reality TV ever since I bought a Peacock subscription. 

Most vitamin IV drips, also known as vitamin therapy, include vitamin C, B vitamins, magnesium, calcium, and electrolytes like Sodium and potassium. The anticipated plus side of using vitamin therapy as opposed to taking vitamins by mouth is that they enter the bloodstream directly, which users have expressed makes them feel better more quickly. Vitamin therapy has also been used specifically for hydration, especially in sports (or, in the reality TV world, hangover cures). 

Cynthia Bailey from RHOA getting a “Fountain of Youth” IV drip

While vitamin IV drips have definitely become a rising trend, especially for the rich and famous, I prefer to steer clear of needles. They make me feel queasy.

The idea of vitamin therapy, though, has me thinking about all of the different kinds of vitamins, supplements, and teas people take for a variety of desired effects. According to a study by Harvard University, approximately 50% of adults take a daily vitamin, and about 33% take a daily multivitamin. On any given day, over fifty percent of the American population drinks tea.

Most of the people I know are heavily into supplements. My mom used to take a handful of gas-station vitamin supplements a day when I was a child, and probably before that, too. Now, she takes more dignified vitamins from a vitamin store, of course. My sister and I take probiotic vitamins and multivitamins. My friends take magnesium supplements and calming gummies and gender-specific one-a-days. My boyfriend takes melatonin like it’s no one’s business. The list goes on.

Besides multivitamins, the only time I lean towards taking supplements is when they offer some kind of calming effect that I am desperate for. 

POV: You and I spill the tea over lavender stress-relief tea served in a Madame de Pompadour tea set.

I am no medical expert, but I do have a list of supplements, whether it be in pill, gummy, or tea form, that I choose from when I’m having an anxious or stressful day. They could be placebo, they could be legitimate, or they could be somewhere in between. Regardless, these are my favorite go-to supplements for calmness and relaxation:

*These recommendations are my own opinion and should not be taken unless consulted with a doctor. 

  • L-Theanine – I think of L-Theanine as my brain’s cuddle buddy. Found in green tea, this little amino acid boosts feel-good neurotransmitters like GABA and serotonin, helping me stay relaxed yet focused. It’s perfect for those days when stress is high, but I still need to get things done (which is pretty much every day).
  • GABA – When my brain feels like it’s in overdrive, GABA tends to slow it down. As the body’s natural calming neurotransmitter, it helps quiet racing thoughts, reduce anxiety, and even improve sleep. I like taking GABA at the end of the day to wind down before bed.
  • Chamomile – A warm cup of chamomile tea before bed isn’t just cozy—it’s science-backed stress relief. Chamomile’s antioxidants interact with our brain’s relaxation receptors, helping to melt away anxiety and promote restful sleep. I drink chamomile tea during the day when my anxiety is high, or at night when I want a good sleep. I like to throw in some lemon and ginger in there when I’m feeling a bit under the weather, too.
  • Ashwagandha – Period! This powerful adaptogen helps balance cortisol (our stress hormone), making us more resilient to daily pressures. Whether you need a mood boost or better sleep, ashwagandha has been known to help with anxiety and stress. Ashwagandha tea and gummies have always helped with my anxiety.
  • Lavender – There’s a reason lavender is in so many spa products. Its soothing scent and calming properties help reduce anxiety, lower stress hormones, and even improve sleep. Whether in tea, essential oils, or supplements, lavender feels like a cute lullaby for my nerves. I like throwing in a lavender shower steamer or two for extra relaxation after a workout. 

All in all, vitamins and supplements can be helpful to add to your diet, with many of them being scientifically proven to improve your mood, cognitive function, and stress tolerance. However, not every vitamin supplement is the magic cure marketers want you to believe—unless your wallet is feeling a little too full, like the reality stars and their extra IV drips. Before you start popping pills like a medieval king trying to avoid the plague (RIP King Henry the 8th, you would’ve loved vitamin B12), chat with your doctor to see what, if anything, you actually need.

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Brenna Sheets is a graduate student in Emerson College’s Writing and Publishing M.A. program. Her hobbies include going on long walks, watching bad television, reading, and writing.

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Candle Ceremonies, Pinterest Boards, and the Art of Manifesting

Tuesday, March 4th, 2025

One of my closest friends was recently flipping through pages of her journal from a few years ago. She had written down manifestation statements back in 2021, setting up goals for herself to actualize in the next few years. “I’m so happy I was able to buy a house in the Dominican Republic by age 24” was one of them. “I’m so happy that, by age 25, I found someone who is right for me, loves me, supports me, and makes me a better person” was another. She cringed while reading them, but she also started tearing up because those two statements came true. 

I’m the kind of person that will try anything as long as it can’t hurt me. With manifesting, I always figured nothing necessarily bad could come out of it, so why not try it? When I first moved to Boston, I went to Salem and bought ‘magic’ candles from a witch store. They were color-coded to what aspect of life one wanted to manifest good things for: green for finances, white for peace, yellow for intelligence, and so on. I went home and lit the red candle, symbolic of love and attraction, and I let the wax melt onto a piece of paper where I had written about my crush on my now boyfriend. Did I feel silly, trying not to set off the fire alarms as I performed a ritual in my bedroom? Yes. Would I do it again? Probably. And THAT’s on girlhood.

My boyfriend’s and my new shoes: manifesting at its finest

I’ve been using the word ‘manifest’ a lot over the past few weeks, and the people around me have been using it as well. In our 20s, we’re all manifesting new jobs, better relationships, and internal peace. “Please manifest for me!” and “I’m manifesting it” and “Manifest good shit” have a surprising amount of hits in my text message results. I’ve never considered myself a believer of pseudosciences like astrology or chakra alignment, but I do think there’s something to be said about the mental energy that goes into getting what you want, along with the inherent determination that comes with it.

According to the Cambridge Dictionary, to manifest is to “imagine achieving something you want, in the belief that doing so will make it more likely to happen.” The word ‘manifest’ was looked up almost 130,000 times on the Cambridge Dictionary website in 2024, making it one of the most-viewed words of the year. In the United States, the idea of manifesting has grown less taboo with time, with many people turning to it daily.

Today’s concept of manifesting can be traced back to the New Thought Movement of the late 19th century, which is based on the idea that our thoughts and beliefs can have an influence on our health, prosperity, and success. The New Thought Movement emerged in the United States and Britain, drawing influence from the literary transcendentalists, the celebrity mesmerists, and, most prominently, Hindu philosophy. In Hinduism, manifestation is connected to the belief in Karma, meaning that our thoughts, intentions, and actions directly influence our reality.

In 2006, Rhonda Byrne published a best-selling self-help book, “The Secret,” exploring the topics of manifesting and the Law of Attraction, which centers on focusing your thoughts and energy on positive desires to attract positive life experiences. “The Secret” went on to sell over 35 million copies worldwide. The rise of celebrities like Jim Carrey, Oprah Winfrey, and Will Smith speaking about their practice of and belief in manifestation aided the book’s sales and reputation despite its lack of scientific foundation. 

Manifesting was brought back into the mainstream media during the early months of the COVID-19 pandemic, with people turning to the concept as almost a coping mechanism for the tough times ahead. During 2020, Google searches for the word ‘manifest’ rose by over 600%, and trends on social media skyrocketed with practices like positive affirmation statements and the 777 method. Pinterest saw a 565% increase in searches related to creating vision boards based on the cultivation of desired self-images. The conviction of social media participants seemed to be split in half, some manifesting comedically and others religiously. 

A few examples of the affirmation memes that circulated the internet during COVID.

From candle ceremonies to Pinterest boards, the art of manifesting today has become a staple in Gen Z’s self-care and wellness culture. New research from American Express reveals that nearly seven in 10 Gen Zs (69%) engage in manifestation practices, with over half saying it’s to help them achieve their goals.

While there is certainly no evidence to support the idea that manifesting gives you exactly what you want without any work involved, there are legitimate mental health benefits to practicing it. If we look at manifesting as not just a trend, but not a whole identity, either, we see that it can be something of a self-care practice, promoting positive self-talk, long- and short-term goals, and confidence in those who participate. Many of us are ‘manifesting’ without even knowing it.

Implementing manifestation tactics like positive self-talk, personal affirmations, and goal visualizations into our daily lives has been shown to improve self-esteem, stress management, and well-being, as well as reduce symptoms of depression and anxiety. In studies by the National Institute of Health, self-talk specifically has beneficial effects on attention and emotion regulation and is widely used for performance enhancement in sports, academic engagement, and regulating anxiety or depression. Additionally, according to BetterHelp, “The latest research shows that the brain does not recognize the difference between real or imagined scenarios and that “rehearsing” future scenarios with visualization can build new neural pathways, calm anxiety, and increase confidence as you work toward your goals.”

Affirmation: I will catch the train on time. I will not miss the train and wait outside in 20-degree weather. The T is on my side.

Olympians across the globe have discussed the mental training that goes into achieving their dreams, from visualizing their race over and over again like Grant Holloway to posting manifestation statements on Instagram like Noah Lyles. It’s clear that the activities involved in manifesting are more than just wishing and wanting; they’re active steps taken to achieve one’s dreams. 

The truth is, when we show up our best, we do our best, both mentally and physically. If we are constantly telling ourselves that we don’t deserve something, that we aren’t good enough, or that we don’t believe in ourselves, it’s more likely we won’t even put the time or energy necessary into our goals. With that, how are we ever supposed to get what we want, or get closer to getting what we want? No one is saying you can just sit on your couch, light a bunch of candles, and wait for a million-dollar check to fall into your lap. Likewise, there’s nothing wrong with being mentally diligent and committed to your goals, either. 

I like to think of it as a self-fulfilling prophecy. A self-fulfilling prophecy, in a gist, is when what you predict to happen becomes what actually happens because it is what you expected to happen (I know, it’s a bit wonky). Basically, your actions end up aligning with your expectations. For example, let’s say I was going to a party, but I was afraid that no one was going to talk to me, and I wouldn’t make any friends. The self-fulfilling prophecy here would be that I went to the party, was too afraid to talk to anyone for fear of rejection, and consequently did not make any friends. I fulfilled the prophecy I set out for myself because I didn’t visualize a different outcome. It’s similar to people who say, “I’m going to fail the test anyway, so why even study?”

However, if I had told myself–whether it be by writing it down in a journal, visualizing the scenario in my head, or using positive self-talk to affirm my wants–that I was going to make friends at the party despite the chances of no one talking to me, I may have been more inclined to talk to people myself. I most likely would start up conversations with strangers and make friends via my own determination and confidence to get what I want. This is how I see manifestation: taking the time and energy to be specific about your desires and how you’ll fulfill them. “I will study, and my hard work will pay off.”

Of course, things don’t always go the way we want, and we can’t expect life to be all smooth sailing. We could easily talk to people at the party only to find out they’re kind of annoying and not really our speed. We could easily study all night and still fail the exam. We could easily be on time for the subway only for it to stand by at the stop before ours for 20 minutes. However, the point is that by focusing on the possible positive outcomes, we open ourselves up to opportunities that we may otherwise not have. If nothing bad can come out of it, why not give it a try?

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Brenna Sheets is a graduate student in Emerson College’s Writing and Publishing M.A. program. Her hobbies include going on long walks, watching bad television, reading, and writing.

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