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How Love Languages Impact Our Relationships

Tuesday, October 13th, 2026

Recently, I’ve been learning more about the five love languages and how they impact my own relationships, especially since moving to a new place. As a graduate student, I’ve moved to a new city where I’ve met so many new people whilst still maintaining connections with previous friends from college and my hometown. The five love languages are relatively simple: first is words of affirmation, which means using your words to give and receive love when it comes to friends, family, and romantic relationships. The second is acts of service, meaning doing things for others and vice versa. Next is quality time, meaning spending time with your loved ones. Then we have physical touch, and finally, receiving gifts. As humans, we show our love in very different ways, and we expect a certain kind of care back. 

I can say with confidence that my love language is words of affirmation. Whenever I’m having a bad day, just having someone express kindness and love through words can be incredibly helpful. This is also how I show my own love for people, which has been crucial since moving away from so many of my friends back home – just sharing our lives with one another over the phone is a love language in itself and helps me whenever I’m feeling homesick. I’ve asked some of my friends from college what their love language is, and many of them said quality time. With this in mind, we recently started planning a trip for next spring, and even though it seems far away, I know how much it means to my friends, as well as myself, to spend quality time with one another.

I moved to the city with my partner, whose love language is acts of service. I’ve learned that even the little things can make a difference in our relationship, like picking up dinner for each other or cleaning the apartment. Understanding this about my partner has been crucial to navigating a relationship in a new environment, and I think it’s really helped us work together as a team. This is our first year living together, and knowing what my partner needs and how they express their love towards me has been really rewarding. We’ve even worked this love language into our schedule, doing things for each other when we know the other doesn’t have time or just doesn’t have the bandwidth to do it. For example, we’ve been switching off who does the laundry each week because of our differing schedules, and doing something to relieve even a little bit of stress for someone can be really fulfilling. 

A few of my family members have been sending me care packages from Wisconsin, and I’ve realized how much gift giving is important to their relationships. My aunt loves to send me cookies, stuffed animals, really anything she knows I’ll like, and it’s become clear as I’ve moved to New York that this is how she gives and receives love. I’ve started sending her thank you cards with updates on school and life in general, and she’s always so appreciative of even the little things. My cousin back home has always been a fan of art shows, and she loves picking out jewelry that she knows I’ll like. Little things like this have helped me learn more about her love language, and I’ve started bringing home souvenirs from places I’ve been, like a bracelet from my trip to Greece last fall or a magnet from the MoMA. It’s been really rewarding to learn more about my loved ones through their own expressions of care, and it’s helped me foster better relationships in such a new environment.   


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By Katrina Kallas

Katrina Kallas is a first-year graduate student at The New School, studying creative writing with a concentration in fiction. Originally from Wisconsin, they enjoy writing about relationships, friendships, and personal values. In their free time, they write fictional stories on a variety of topics and hope to publish a novel after they graduate. 


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The Ups and Downs of Cross Country Friendships

Tuesday, October 6th, 2026

As a recent New York resident, I’ve had to say goodbye to a lot of really good friends, at least in the physical sense. Some of my friends live in Texas, others still in Wisconsin where I grew up, and some in Illinois and Minnesota. Though I’ve found some amazing people in the city and continue to grow my friendships at school, there are so many people I’ve met throughout my time in the midwest who’ve shaped the person I am today, and with whom I’ll always stay in touch.

Leaving for school can often mean parting ways with some of our closest friends, and it can be hard to stay in touch in such a big city. New York can be especially overwhelming and take up a lot of our energy, and it can be hard to stay in touch during such a busy time in our lives. I’ve definitely been noticing this in my own life these past few months since moving to New York, and though I wish I could say it’s been easy balancing schoolwork with long distance friendships, it’s not always that simple. From battling timezones to work schedules, it can be hard to find the time to really converse and connect with our people. Just recently I’ve started learning how to balance my long distance friendships as well as my life in the city, and it’s proved to be incredibly rewarding and important to both my well-being and my relationships. 

One of the most successful ways I’ve been able to stay connected is to plan ahead, especially when it comes to phone calls and FaceTimes. Every week, I find time to talk on the phone and really catch up with my friends. I’ve found it’s really important to find time to actually talk, rather than just text, and just hearing a friend’s voice can be really rewarding after a long week of classes. It may not be the same time every week, but working these calls into your schedule can be really crucial to keeping those friendships alive. Recently, I’ve been mapping out my week in order to create a better work-life balance and plan some time to socialize with friends, and honestly it’s really helped my mental health. 

I’ve also found that media can be a great way to bring people together. For example, my friends and I decided to start a book club in order to stay connected through our love of reading! Each month, we decide on a new book to read, and just knowing that I’ll be able to talk about something I love with the people I love on a regular basis helps me keep going during a stressful week. We’ve also planned virtual movie nights and watch parties for some of our favorite shows! It can be hard when you and your friends are living such different lives in different parts of the country, but connecting over a shared passion can be one of the best ways to stay in touch.

Finally, one of the easiest things that has helped me stay connected is celebrating the small things. Whether it be getting a good grade on my latest assignment or getting accepted to an internship, just sending your friends a quick text to update them can help create this sense of connectedness and comradery, even from afar. In a city as busy as New York, we don’t always have time to call, and though of course texting is not the same, just giving your friends a quick update can be incredibly rewarding and spark great conversation! Long distance friendships definitely come with their own struggles, but I’ve found that these hardships can make our relationships even stronger in the long run.


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By Katrina Kallas

Katrina Kallas is a first-year graduate student at The New School, studying creative writing with a concentration in fiction. Originally from Wisconsin, they enjoy writing about relationships, friendships, and personal values. In their free time, they write fictional stories on a variety of topics and hope to publish a novel after they graduate. 


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What it takes to build a village

Wednesday, August 12th, 2026
Photo by Alyssa Hong. A beautiful sunset in my hometown featuring a cloudy day mixed with the striking hues of orange shown by the sun making it’s descent.

Within writing each chapter, I am forced to reflect on what it means to build a community whilst forging a “home” of my very own in a foreign city. Questions about music inspire thoughts about charismatic unity through the melodic sounds of tunes and the inscriptions written in song lyrics. Gravitation pulls towards genres of high beats or slow rhythms tell you about someone’s personhood. Their favorite artist highlighting their politics and ethics. The same can be said about fashion. Expression is folded into each crease of a person’s jeans or their color palette. What cannot be said from mere words is fabricated elegantly within their own personal style; even more so in their taste. 

Every character thus far has engraved countless lessons upon my being. Monica persuades me to accept any possible opportunity from career ideas to clubs to even hobbies. She shows me what taking risks means and the rewards that come from putting my all into anything I do. Kylie reminds me that there is never not something to learn. Reminders that mistakes are a beautiful way to learn who I am are forwarded by her courage to be wrong and her doubt that she knows everything. She is immensely wise and selfless even to a fault. Irene highlights that nobody cares what others are doing. Her leap of faith into her hobbies and her sense of normalcy prompts the idea that we are all on our own journeys, impacted but not ruled by others. 

Villages require villagers; thus, finding your people may lead to unexpected incompatibilities and drama. Friendships can be messy, but with clear goals and desires of what type of relationships you seek to have can provide you with the most meaningful, enriching memories. I must argue that an essential mindset must be to grow with your friends. Stagnancy and mundanity are two different things. The most mundane friendships contain a comfort in silence and appreciation of one another’s energy. Stagnancy, however, can only keep you both in a constant cycle of nothingness. No lessons being learned and oftentimes a credulous amount of toxicity and unhappiness. If you look to grow from your friends, you certainly will. 

I look to others for their character, humor, etc.  — truly all things that I might have never realized about myself. I also look at my relations to others. What does their background have to do with what they’ve experienced and how does that experience reflect their treatment of others and myself? 

Although building a community may seem like a hassle which can be easily solved by connecting in each other’s likes or interests, forging something that lasts and fulfills the soul — the real creation of “home” or homemaking only begins when you venture through spending time together and learning about who you both are. College is a playground where kids are running around and finding out the best ways to play while adjusting to their reality of independence and autonomy. Once you observe and listen, you realize that nobody knows anything nor cares. You free your mind of anxiousness and materialize the idea that it is completely okay to not have anything figured out because nobody ever does. It is adaptation and resilience that allow you the chance to make things go in your favor. 

A village brings that together. When every person can simply accept one another (with respect to their personhood), it becomes easier to look at differences as lessons to learn and curious questions to ask. Then, you can grow to appreciate each person’s interests, likes, dislikes, politics, virtues, etc. and learn from one another because ultimately you realize you both are not all that different. 


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By Alyssa Hong

Alyssa Hong is a rising Junior at Barnard College, studying Political Science with a minor in English. As a first-generation, low-income student, she writes about moving across the country for college and its adjustments. She utilizes entertainment, wellness/health/food, and fashion/beauty as methods to making new connections with others whilst always learning.


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Resilience in Routine

Tuesday, June 16th, 2026
Photo by Alyssa Hong. Here I am sitting in a field of overly bloomed tulips at the Queens Botanical Garden.

One of the most essential parts of college is finding ways to continue a healthy lifestyle despite having copious amounts of free will. For this, I suggest enrolling in classes with friends for things like yoga, pilates, or anything really. 

What started out as Thursday evening classes for yoga simply began as a question: 

“Do you want to try Fitbear classes with me?”

Monica, my best friend, asked me this during our first year in college after the first semester. Still timid, my voice appeared firm in accepting her offer but the tremble of my body could not shake this anxious moment. I wondered if the class would paint us as newbies and that we would be made fun of – superficial concerns which made no sense looking back because everyone starts somewhere. 

Our first class had me looking over my shoulder constantly. I put on my leggings for the first time since COVID era, which had me doing Chloe Ting workouts in my bedroom. Highschool kept me so preoccupied I only had time for dance club so I had wildly let myself go. I went down the elevator to the first floor where the water station was and filled my Awola full of water since I was not sure how hard I would be sweating for “vinyasa” yoga. 

I did not even know what “vinyasa” meant. 

I knocked on Monica’s door since we lived in the same small hallway; we were on our way. Geared with her yoga mat, leggings, and water bottle, Monica was prepared for the next hour of downward facing dogs later. As we rode the elevator down, my face kept making the same grin of nervousness. My hands shook like no other. Soon, I found myself in the basement of the main campus building for our class with my hand gripping the handle of the door. As I opened it, the world began to shine in on me. 

Starting by reaching down towards our feet, I felt the release of all my stresses of homesickness to future career anxieties diminish. Halfway lift — holding my breath, I stared at my posture in the mirror, diligently focusing on my body and how it felt. Then down into a down-dog while bending our knees side-by-side. Stretching my body through every pose was my revenge on this fast-moving world. 

With Monica keeping me accountable, I learned the art of yoga: finding stillness and intention. Each pose should be made with intent and slow movement rather than rushing through. I thought about engaging my core, where my hands were, and finally how my body felt. The tension housed within my joints transpired as I held my intention from the beginning of the class to the very end. 

After my very first class, Monica and I continued these classes even adding two a week to our schedules if time permitted. That’s how we ended up trying a Zumba class on a random given Wednesday. 

Without her pushing me out of my own comfort (my mind), I would have never found the art of truly slowing down in yoga. We still go to these classes only now they are Friday morning classes at 9 AM instead. We always find time within our schedules and are always seeking to learn something new in our fitness journeys like how to perform frog pose or a proper chaturanga. 

I have also learned so much about Monica from this routine. She prefers cardio whereas I hate cardio entirely. I found this out after one of our conversations post-class (Total Sculpt) which was filled with cardio. 

“I like it because you can feel it.”

“I hate it for that exact reason.”

She also used to train mainly using cardio for rowing in Highschool and still does for when she scuba dives in the summer. Whereas, I only did cardio for dance in Middle School which I still hated. 

Nevertheless, yoga, or more generally, fitness classes have become our routine to resist anything college throws our way. It is not only a way to connect with others, but a chance to learn something new about them and yourself. 


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By Alyssa Hong

Alyssa Hong is a rising Junior at Barnard College, studying Political Science with a minor in English. As a first-generation, low-income student, she writes about moving across the country for college and its adjustments. She utilizes entertainment, wellness/health/food, and fashion/beauty as methods to making new connections with others whilst always learning.


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The First Year is Key: On Prioritizing and Priorities Your Freshman Year

Tuesday, June 2nd, 2026

As an incoming freshman, it can be very easy to overlook the impact of your first year on your entire undergraduate experience. Of course, we all know that the purpose of going to college is to earn a degree that will allow us to step into a well-paying, largely fulfilling, and even highly impressive career. However, along with these more pressing academic and professional challenges, students are also exposed to new social and personal demands, and how they choose to respond to all these importunities establishes the foundation for the rest of their four years.

My friends and I on the lawn of the Washington Monument during the March 2025 lunar eclipse

My own freshman year was fairly unusual and equally experimental. As someone who was admitted as a first-year Study Away student at NYU, I spent my first two semesters of college with a small cohort of about forty freshmen at the university’s Washington, DC site. Despite the one-building campus still donning the famous torch banner and offering residents access to the school’s academic, career, and mental and emotional well-being resources, the limited extracurricular opportunities, course options, and student population lead me to view my sophomore year—and my first year in New York City—as my true first year at NYU.

However, being in Manhattan introduced a fresh set of new-adult challenges. In late September, about a month after my 2025 fall semester kicked off, I experienced an intense and persistent immune system flare-up. Not too long afterwards, I decided to commit myself to my first romantic relationship, which also happened to be long-distance. While attempting to navigate these major life changes, I began to unintentionally isolate myself, and before I knew it, I had become caught up in a heavily routine and often unfulfilling day-to-day.

My boyfriend and I watched The Great Gatsby Broadway musical while he visited me in NYC

My point is not to ignore fluctuations in your physical health—which may be signals of discomfort or difficulty adjusting. Nor should you avoid untraditional first-year experiences or introducing highly impactful relationships to your life, since both may prove to be significant opportunities for growth. Rather, my advice is this: frame your expectations for your freshman year—and college as a whole—in terms of aspects of life that you want to prioritize. This will let you more easily adapt to inexpectancies and keep you from prematurely dismissing their value.

Unlike your goals, your priorities do not have to be distinctly defined. Though they can be, deciding you want to care for your overall health and well-being can be just as effective as making a pact with yourself to stick to a specific weight-loss diet or strength-training regimen. In fact, as a more indecisive individual, I have found that being less specific about my priorities helps me make decisions that better align with my more specific goals. By taking off the pressure to maximize time and avoid future regrets, the vagueness can actually aid you in working more productively and cohesively towards achieving your goals.

Your priorities may shift depending on the circumstances that arise in your four years. Heading into college, I had already determined that socializing, nurturing my already-formed friendships, job hunting, optimally studying, and making time for myself and my favorite pastimes would all be of great importance to me. I might have said that I was blindsided by the limited nature of NYU’s DC campus or by my health obstacles and love life developments, but these anomalies were truly opportunities to practice rebalancing my priorities.

My biggest mistake yet has been writing off my two “first years” before taking the time to reflect upon how they could inform my following years at NYU. In fact, thanks to the adjustments I faced in my freshman and sophomore years, I am going into my junior year believing that as a college student it is most important to prioritize building resilience for moments when even our best-laid plans go awry.

So, as you enter your freshman year, set yourself up for unpredictability. Decide which aspects of life you want to prioritize. Then, watch how making them the foundation of your decision-making allows you to appreciate even the most surprising circumstances—because at the end of your undergraduate career, it is not exactly what you did that will matter, but how fulfilled you feel.


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By Lauren Gascon 

Lauren Gascon studies Media, Culture, and Communication at NYU and enjoys discussing people’s relationships with each other and themselves. When she’s not on campus, you can find her café hopping, browsing bookstores, or enjoying lunch in one of New York City’s many beautiful parks.


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What Are Friends For?

Thursday, July 24th, 2025

Maintaining friendships is something I’ve struggled with in my time in college. There is so much talk about romantic heartbreak that we aren’t really prepped to lose a friend. It can be just as painful, especially the kind of friend you thought would be in your life forever. College has taught me that not all friendships are meant to last and learning that lesson is one of the most defining parts of growing up. 

As someone who is more reserved, quiet, and a little rigid when it comes to my beliefs, making friends is very hard for me. It can be hard for me to put myself out there and show my true personality. Throughout my time in college, I’ve made some incredible friendships. People I laughed with until I cried, studied with until 2 a.m., vented about life, etc. These friendships carried me through some of the hardest and happiest moments of my life. But I’ve also watched a few of them dissolve quietly, unexpectedly, or sometimes through conflict I never saw coming.

Some breakups happened because we simply grew apart. Our schedules no longer aligned, our values shifted, or we stopped showing up for each other. Others ended in messier ways. Misunderstandings that were never resolved, hurt feelings that were never addressed, or boundaries that were crossed too many times. Regardless of how it ended, the aftermath always had the same emotion… grief. 

One of the hardest friendships I lost was this past semester. I had my friend in my second semester of sophomore year, and we clicked almost instantly. We had pretty similar lives and bonded over very similar experiences throughout our lives. We eventually became roommates all of junior year and shared everything from meals, secrets, and inside jokes. At the tail end of the second semester, I had changed. I struggled a lot with my mental health, which made me push myself away, causing a bit of a shift. I also wasn’t perfect and did things that I shouldn’t have done, causing the friendship to take a rift. I left the end of the semester with us on bad terms and haven’t talked to her since. In hindsight, the friendship ending was mainly my fault, and now I take accountability for a lot of things happening. Losing this friendship was probably one of the toughest experiences I’ve gone through. I always thought she would be one of my bridesmaids or like an aunt to my future children. I cried for weeks and not because I was angry, but because I missed her.

Although losing my friend was really hard, it did teach me a lot of things. I learned a lot about how I am and how to proceed with friendships in the future. The first and most important thing is to allow yourself to grieve. Whether it was your fault or not for the friendship ending, it’s okay to feel sad, angry, confused, or betrayed. Your emotions are valid even if no one else sees the loss. The second takeaway is to set emotional boundaries. If you’re tempted to keep checking their social media or overthinking every last conversation, pause and give yourself time and distance to process. The third takeaway is to not romanticize the past. It’s easy to only remember the good times, but reflect honestly. The fourth and final takeaway is to make space for new connections. Losing one friend doesn’t mean you’re unlovable. Sometimes it just means you’re making room for better alignment. Take those friendships as a learning experience for someone else you meet.

Friendships evolving into love and unity.
Image credit: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/when-kids-call-the-shots/202208/how-to-foster-friendships-filled-with-love-heart-and-spirit

Friendship breakups can impact your mental health just as much as any romantic one. Sometimes the most painful endings lead to the most powerful growth, and while I’ll always carry love for the friends I’ve lost, I’ve learned to carry it in a way that doesn’t weigh me down. I keep going back to the time I had with my friend and reflect on the positive, which gave me lifelong memories I’ll never forget and cherish for the rest of my life. 


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Yamilia Ford is a rising senior at Pace University with a major in business management and three minors in journalism, creative writing, and film studies. Her passion for writing allows her to inspire through her own creative lens, giving people the opportunity to relate to her.


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Chapter 6: The Screen Between Me and Myself

Wednesday, July 16th, 2025

I was convinced I had everything under control in high school, and I even signed up for a debate on “How Media and Devices Shape the Youth.” And guess what? I argued passionately about how my phone helps us stay connected, learn faster, and express ourselves. And honestly, they do — but only if we know where to draw the line. ​​

But looking back… I wasn’t defending this media and devices. I was defending my dependence on it. I was using “productivity” and “connection” as a mask to avoid admitting the truth: I couldn’t go ten minutes without checking my phone. That it gave me dopamine hits, I didn’t want to give up. That I needed it more than I wanted to admit.

For the longest time, I thought this addiction started in college, but the truth is,  it’s been with me for years. I just didn’t realize it until now. You might wonder how I didn’t notice it back in high school. Well…I was wrapped up in my ego back then. My mom used to tell me I was addicted to my phone, but I would always brush it off. In my mind, as long as I kept my GPA high, it didn’t count as a real problem. And to be fair, I was pulling 90s, even while glued to my screen. So I thought, “How bad could it be?”

But then college hit, things changed. My grades slipped. My confidence collapsed. Suddenly, the tricks that used to work didn’t anymore. My ability to multitask, to study with distractions, to function while constantly checking notifications — it all failed me. And for the first time, I couldn’t deny it: this was an addiction. 

I started to realize that my phone had become a coping mechanism. Any time I felt anxious, bored, lonely, or overwhelmed, I’d reach for it without thinking. 

One thing I’ve really started to notice is how much my behavior has changed. I’m almost always in a bad mood. I barely have the will to do anything, even the basics. It’s like I’m constantly stuck in this fog, and I can’t shake it. I used to have drive, ideas, and things I wanted to get done. But now, even getting out of bed feels like a chore. Everything feels forced, like I’m running on empty.

It hasn’t just affected how I feel, it’s affected how I treat the people around me, too. My relationships with my family and friends have started to change, and not in a good way. I’ve become more impatient, more distant. I snap at people for no reason. I zone out when they’re talking to me. I’ve noticed myself getting irritated over the smallest things. I give short replies, ignore calls, and cancel plans. And the truth is, it’s not because I don’t care. It’s because I don’t have it in me to care the way I used to. I’m so caught up in my own fatigue, my own scrolling, my own world on a screen, that I’ve started pushing people away without even realizing it.

The worst part of dependence is that you don’t know how to stop. And even when you do know, it still feels like you can’t. You feel trapped in your own habits, in your own head. And you keep hoping one day you’ll just snap out of it.

But change doesn’t come all at once. It starts with awareness. With honesty. With moments like this, you finally stop pretending everything’s fine and admit that something needs to shift.

And that’s where I am now. I don’t have it all figured out. But I’ve stopped lying to myself. I’ve started setting limits. Whether in the form of feeling guilty after every doomscroll, or setting a timer, or just acknowledging the limit. I’ve started trying, even if it’s messy and slow. Because at the end of the day, I still believe in who I can become. I still believe there’s a version of me out there who’s more present, more connected, not to a screen, but to life.


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By Marzia Seemat

Marzia Seemat is a sophomore at NYU studying civil engineering and creative writing. She loves being close to nature, especially at the beach. Her favorite things include good food, morning tea, hour-long movies, and spending time with the people she loves.


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Home Away From Home

Tuesday, July 15th, 2025

In college, it is important to have a strong support system. Whether it’s your family, friends, legal guardians, or mentors at school, having a good support system allows you to lean on them when you are struggling. When I left for college, the hardest goodbye I faced was my family, specifically my mom and dad. For eighteen years, they have stood by my side and have given me great opportunities and memories, so it was hard to let go and live my life on my own. I struggled in my first semester while I was away, and my family was my support system.

Family can be your strongest support system, or it can be a complicated one. In my case, I’ve had moments where my family lifted me up when I was feeling stressed about adjusting to college life, my academics, and my health. Whether it was a quick phone call from either of my parents or a package of stuff from my room to remind me of home, the little things keep me supported and motivated to keep going.

Although my family has supported me throughout my time in college, there have been times where my family didn’t fully understand what I was going through. They couldn’t always relate to the stress of college, my health struggles, or my mental health journey. It took time for me to realize that family support doesn’t always look the way you want it to. My parents have always been very keen on giving me honest and realistic feedback and telling me how it is, even if it means disagreeing with me and how I feel. This has given me a newfound perspective that support comes in all different ways.

A picture of my family who is my biggest support system.

Friendships, on the other hand, are constantly evolving in college. Some of my high school friends faded out naturally. Others stayed and became my emotional anchors. I also formed new friendships, some quickly, some over time. I think the hardest part about forming friendships is that not all of them last. College friendships are different because you’re growing, changing, and figuring out who you are, and that growth can bring you closer or pull you apart.

Family and friends deeply affect your wellness, mental health, and fitness more than most people realize. When I felt supported, I took better care of myself. I slept better, ate more regularly, and felt motivated to move my body. This proves that if you have a good support system with the relationships around you, you are more likely to succeed in every aspect of your college life.

An effective relationship can give you the stability to maintain yourself. Some key takeaways I’ve learned along the way is to one, always communicate openly. Your family and friends can’t support you if they don’t know what’s going on. Be honest about how you’re doing, even when it’s messy or uncomfortable. The second takeaway is to make time for the community, even if it’s just a 10-minute call or a quick text. The third takeaway is to show up when you can, because support goes both ways. Be the friend or sibling you want to have. The fourth and most important takeaway I’ve learned is to not force what doesn’t fit. If a friendship feels one-sided or harmful, it’s okay to let go.

Your heart, your background, your people, all come with you. Learning how to balance your academic goals with your emotional ties is part of the process. At the end of the day, when you’re done with college, the people you keep around during that process will still be around, and that’s something you should hold onto forever.


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By: Yamilia Ford

Yamilia Ford is a rising senior at Pace University with a major in business management and three minors in journalism, creative writing, and film studies. Her passion for writing allows her to inspire through her own creative lens, giving people the opportunity to relate to her.


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It All Started With A Play

Wednesday, July 9th, 2025

When I started college as a freshman, I had this image in my head of what I wanted to do in my life. Before I was accepted into school, I had declared a major in business management and hoped to join the dance program, as I was a dancer in high school that wanted to continue my training and eventually open up my own dance studio franchise.

My very first semester, I had taken a course called gender, race, and class, which was something I wasn’t necessarily interested in but took because I needed the credits. For the final exam, each student had to create some kind of visual or written presentation on a certain topic we had learned. Most of my classmates decided to write an essay or draw a picture, but I decided to do something different and write a play. When I wrote the play, I thought nothing of it and turned it in thinking I was done with the class. When I received the feedback for my professor, she gave me a perfect score and urged me to publish it, claiming that I had a knack for creative writing.

One of the most overlooked advantages of college is utilizing the relationships in college. The people around you can really shape your entire experience, from how you perform academically to how supported you feel emotionally. The professional and academic connections can change your outlook on certain topics you learn and even change the trajectory of your career, making these relationships some of the most important. I would have never known I had a knack for creative writing without the proper connection from my professor. 

Your professors and classmates are more than just people you see in class. They can become mentors, collaborators, and part of your support network. As someone who was not very actively speaking in class, I felt behind with the classwork because I didn’t ask questions. When I finally pushed myself to go to office hours, I realized that most professors want to help and they notice the students who are engaged. They remember the ones who ask for clarification or show interest beyond the test. 

A professor helping a student during office hours. Image Credit: https://www.towson.edu/cofac/resources/

I talk a lot about my mental and physical health, and how it affects my learning abilities, particularly last semester. When I was really struggling with the one class, I anxiously reached out to my professor and explained my situation. That professor was very kind and offered a lot of flexibility for me. When you build relationships with your instructors early on, it’s easier to ask for help when life gets hard.

As far as professional relationships, whether it be your academic advisors or alumni mentors, these people aren’t just there to fill out forms or sign off hours, they can offer guidance, encouragement, and real-world connections.

Last semester, I realized I’d be graduating a semester behind. When I spoke to my academic advisor, she and I worked together to devise a plan so that I didn’t have to jam pack my schedule and be overwhelmed. She also encouraged me by saying that it was normal for most students to graduate a little late. 

Not all relationships are easy. Some professors are rigid. Some classmates are competitive. Some advisors are hard to reach. But even when it’s tough, you can still learn how to advocate for yourself, navigate difficult dynamics, and build relationships with people who do want to see you thrive.

When you’re building and maintaining relationships, there are several ways you can take to maximize your college experience. The first and most important tip to me is to introduce yourself early. Whether it’s a professor or classmate, take the first step. A simple “Hi, I’m ___” goes a long way. The second one is to ask questions and show interest. Professors especially remember when you’re curious and engaged. The third one, which I also feel is very important, is to follow up. You should always send a thank-you email, schedule a check-in, or stay in touch after a helpful meeting. The fourth and final one is to show gratitude. When someone helps you, let them know how much you appreciate and how much it has helped you.

College is not a solo journey, but a community experience, and the people you surround yourself with can either support your wellness or strain it, so choose wisely and invest intentionally. Never be afraid to reach out, even if you feel anxious about it, because sometimes the right conversation changes everything.


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By: Yamilia Ford

Yamilia Ford is a rising senior at Pace University with a major in business management and three minors in journalism, creative writing, and film studies. Her passion for writing allows her to inspire through her own creative lens, giving people the opportunity to relate to her.


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Paris, Texas and how it changed the way I see NYC

Saturday, June 28th, 2025

One of the most exciting aspects of going to school in NYC is the artistry and magic behind the film industry here. As a film enthusiast, filmmaker, and actor myself, I have always believed that although the industry lies in Los Angeles, that the heart of indie, unique, and distinctive voices lies here. Being in the same environment where legends like Scorsese, Bob Dylan, Al Pacino, Spike Lee, and Robert De Niro stepped foot in and marked their paths inspires me everyday as an artist, but more importantly makes me want to forge my own path and my own artistic process. 

Martin Scorsese and Robert de Niro on the set of Taxi Driver (1971).
Image credits: https://www.fastcompany.com/3066462/cinephile-alert-the-martin-scorsese-museum-exhibition-has-come-to-nyc

When I arrived in NYC to start classes, the first thing I set out to do was to visit the historic and iconic IFC Cinemas in the West Village. Upon seeing it I felt transformed. Despite having been in New York a few times before, I had never gotten a chance to explore it through my love for art, and even just seeing felt magical until now. They were doing a showing of Paris, Texas, a film that absolutely floored me the first time I watched it due to its philosophical richness and emotional depth. I decided that that would be the first film I would watch in New York City, and I couldn’t have chosen a better film to set the stage for such a monumental chapter in my life – the first year of college; away from home. 

IFC Center in West Village, NYC

What captures me about Paris, Texas is the striking portrayal of what it’s like to be on a search to find yourself, to see what your place in the world is and why it’s meaningful. The protagonist, Travis, is introduced to the audience as an amnesiac who is lost, wandering the desert alone without any idea of who his past self entailed. The film shows the journey he faces in reconstructing his life, but more importantly, how the choices he makes as he finds himself are different from those of the man he abandoned. It touches on a core belief of Jean Paul-Satre, that existence precedes essence; that the choices you make and reasoning behind them are what determines your destiny. Essentially, we are all born with a Tabula Rasa, or a blank slate. There could not be a moment that is more deserving of this ideology than going to college. When we enter college, we can all be a blank slate. You don’t have to be the same exact person you were in high school, and the choices you make while in college are what often set yourself up for what can be a very rewarding and fulfilling life.

Paris, Texas Still – Travis wandering desert
Image credit: https://inalonelyplacefilm.com/2014/11/30/paris-texas-a-visual-trip/

As an artist and especially someone pursuing a fine arts degree, I think that we are all blank slates. We are all trying to find not only what motivates us to create art, but also our own niche and our own style of artistry. “I think college can be an opportunity where your art will grow, flourish, and expand beyond your very eyes with the help of your education and the people you meet. Even for non-artists or people who enjoy art as more of a hobby, this idea can be put into practice in careers. We are trying to find what makes us good at what we are, what makes us want to pursue what we are pursuing, and more importantly we are exploring who we are as people. 

Another aspect of Paris, Texas that I find is worth mentioning is its ideas regarding time, memory, and space. Director Wim Wenders uses a variety of open, vast shots, where the characters are seen as miniscule behind the scenery of the American west. This choice is intentional, as is any choice a filmmaker makes in the creation of their films, but what makes this such a valuable choice is the statement it makes about our place in the world. Arguably we are only a very small fraction of history, of the world, of time.

Paris, Texas still: Travis wandering desert
Image credit: https://spfilmjournal.wordpress.com/2013/06/24/paris-texas-by-wim-wenders-1984/

Like Travis at the start of the film, we are immediately subjected to being in the vast, empty, and almost liminal south Texan desert, leading us to feel the same confusion as him. After he gets reunited with his brother and begins his journey to find his ex-wife, the closer he gets to the city and urbanization the more his memories start to return back to him. Paris. Texas not only evokes the fact that memory keeps us all grounded, but also suggests that time can reshape itself. We can’t necessarily forget our past, but maybe we don’t have to. Being able to self-reflect and grow from our past, while also keeping the value in the memories that matter is a lesson that I think anyone should take from this film, and also this important stage in life. In a city like New York, you can almost feel as isolated and stuck with your own thoughts as if you were in the desert, but being able to use those moments with yourself and feel connected to what feels like home is often what gives us the motivation to keep going towards our goals and dreams. 

Entrance of the IFC Center in West Village

What left me most in awe after exiting the theatre during this showing was the ending of the film. On the big screen, there is absolutely nothing like it. The green light on the empty parking lot roof that overlooks the twilight sky, seeing Travis leave his child with Jane after he finally tracked her down, and ending with him being alone once again is more open to interpretation than I can think of.

Paris, Texas still: Jane and her son reunite
Image credit: https://inalonelyplacefilm.com/2014/11/30/paris-texas-a-visual-trip/

The main thing that I find powerful about the ending is the idea of space, silence, and letting go. The fact that he lets Jane and their son go off, without his physical intervention, shows the way in which internal redemption doesn’t always end in a “happily ever after.” He acknowledges that his past self did harm, and rather than go back, he decides that keeping space between them is the best course of action he could take, but leaves satisfied in his ability to fix something. His transformation and character growth was introspective, and despite being left in the same physical predicament that he started (alone, wandering, a nomad), he isn’t who he was at the start of the film because he remembers his past. In more ways than one, I think this is reflective of how I see my college journey. Wenders captures brilliantly the weight that lies within silence, within solitude, within goodbyes, and within starting over, and similarly, college can feel like that too. You are learning your place in the world, you are saying goodbye to a life that you can’t completely go back to, and you are learning to become your very best company. College forces you to confront the idea of who you think you are, and will lead you to grow inwardly and internally, rather than it being a big, climactic moment. 

Paris, Texas still: Travis watches as Jane and their son drive off
Image credit: https://velveteyes.net/movie-stills/paris-texas/

Change can be scary, college can be scary, even being alone can be scary. But it doesn’t always have to be. Change can lie in what feels familiar and can push us to new corners if we let it.


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By Avril Walter

Avril Walter is a Sophomore at New York University, majoring in Drama and Cinema Studies. Coming from an Argentinian background, she loves anything related to futbol, steak, and dulce de leche. When she is not in class, she can be found playing the violin, running, cooking, or at the movie theatre.


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