Just Around the Corner: Kalye

February 4th, 2025

Aidann Gia, Pace University

I moved to the United States at eighteen months old from an urbanized, mountainous city named Baguio, located on the largest island in the Philippines. I’ve resided just north of Annapolis, Maryland since, attending mostly predominantly white institutions. I am currently a senior at Pace University, surrounded by peers with skin tones that do not resemble mine and cultural experiences that do not align with my own. To be surrounded by individuals that understand the same language, feel music that resonates with my collectivist values, and eat foods that resemble common suppers at grandma’s. Finding Filipino cuisine isn’t terribly difficult, as Little Manila in Queens flourishes and the Jollibee franchise grows throughout the city. These spots, however, lack the essence of fine dining and occurence of basking in all the senses a meal can offer. The elements I deemed necessary for an optimal dinner as a homesick first-gen college student were all found in Kalye, an Asian owned establishment within walking distance of my college campus. 

The dimly lit interior of Kalye, with projections of old Filipino films and small gilded table lamps.

Kimi, my close friend, ventured with me to try out their selection after our last class. She identifies as Chinese American, with some rudimentary knowledge and cultural appreciation for Filipino foods, but was ecstatic when I invited her to dinner.

“The space was very cozy and homey. The lighting was not harsh, which I loved. They were playing Filipino movies on a projector in the back which added a unique touch to the vibe of the restaurant,” Kimi noted. 

Although just a small touch, the restaurant presenting old films with movie stars of bronze complexion and jet black hair elicited an indescribable euphoria within my body. Modern gilded lamps illuminated the dining space, cascaded an ambient glow throughout the room. The walls exhibited drawings of caricatures and quotes written in Tagalog, strewn across the entire establishment. We settled in quickly and found the menu to immediately entice us. 

To start, we placed an order for two drinks. An ube-horchata mocktail was served with a smoking cinnamon stick, placed delicately between ice cubes. The drink was heavy on the ube and left a thin film covering my tongue in the sweetness of the ube yam. The Darna cocktail encapsulated a mix of tequila, mezcal, guava, agave, aperol, lime, thai chili, club soda, and glitter stars. Both had a gorgeous, vibrant-colored presentation. 

Our Darna cocktail and ube-horchata mocktail.

We selected two appetizers: a traditional platter of pork lumpia and bowl of laaing. Lumpia is essentially crispy spring rolls stuffed with minced garlic and a sweet pork filling. The six pieces and complementary sweet chili sauce served were the staples of the evening. This bowl of laaing was comprised of dried taro leaves and coconut milk to create a dip for the side of pita chips. 

”The laaing with chips was so addictive. I couldn’t stop eating it. The salty chips with savory dip and spicy chili is a great combo,” Kimi raved. “The lemon adds to its very unique flavor. The coconut taste was delicious.”

The laaing with chips (left) and pork lumpia (right).

For our main courses, Kimi ordered the mushroom sisig, a vegetarian take on the Filipino classic pork sisig. An assortment of diced mushrooms and a mix of chickpeas was placed on our table, alongside a large scoop of plain rice, as the intensity of onions and peppers did not subside quickly. 

Kimi took notes, “The mushrooms were well-cooked and not overly chewy. It’s a very savory fish.”

To my surprise, family-sized lechon was on the dinner menu. Of all Filipino dishes in existence, this was my favorite. It is served at every thanksgiving my family hosts, with elated cousins, aunts, uncles, and godparents devouring handfuls of rice and pork, with banana leaves replacing typical ceramic dinnerware. A wave of an unfamiliar emotion came over me as it was brought out on a woven plate. The incredibly fatty, tender, juicy chunks of pork melted in my mouth, perfected by the sweetness of mang tomas, a thick, brown sauce made especially for lechon. 

The beautiful displays of mushroom sisig and pork lechon.

Our last dishes were a portion of ube ice cream and a mango float. The smooth bright-purple ice cream was topped with little slivers of white jelly and a sea-salt taste. I preferred this dessert, while Kimi favored the mango float. Frozen mango slices, sandwiched between two layers of mango ice cream, sat on a base of graham crackers in this final dish. To the side was a dash of cherry compote, a pleasant surprise for my evening companion. 

A seemingly petite portion of Kalye’s mango float.

“Around 7:30 they started having live music which elevated my dining experience and made the space more fun. The waitress was very informed when asked questions on the menu and the service was quick,” she reviewed. “Overall my experience was very positive and I’d love to go back for one of their Sunday drag brunches.”

I had two major takeaways from the night: a.) this small hidden gem of a restaurant can be one of the safe havens that I can look to when I am in need of familiar language, food, and faces b.) the restaurant was filled with people of all ethnic backgrounds and was enjoyable for anyone who was willing to try new foods, music, and atmosphere. Thankfully, Kalye (Rivington St.) has partnered with Campus Clipper to give students 20% off when they show their valid student ID and the coupon below.

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How to Stay Somewhat Sane

February 4th, 2025
Another week of trying my best to not end up like Georgina Sparks

It’s 6:30 p.m. on a Sunday, and I’ve just had dinner—sausage and roasted asparagus. I head upstairs to fold the laundry and hang my dresses as reality TV plays in the background. When I finally crawl into bed, I shed a tear, and then a few more, and then a lot more. With blurry vision, I find myself clicking “pay” on a transaction for vintage Coach ballet flats I don’t need, and then I pour myself a tall glass of Prosecco. With a damp sleep mask over my eyes, I fall asleep to the sounds of 40-year-old narcissists screaming over Andy Cohen. I toss and turn throughout the night, and when I wake up, I’m puffy, nauseated, and a bit disoriented. 

This past weekend, I had brunch downtown with my two friends. We waited outside in 30° weather for gourmet omelets and signature lattes (they were luckily worth it). In between conversations about crispy tofu and men with anger issues, my friend Grace asked us if we’d been to Pressed, which is a popular cafe with a main location in Boston. My friend Amber and I thought Grace said, “Have you guys ever been depressed?”

 Slightly caught off guard by the apparent switch of topics, Amber responded with comedic elegance, “Yes, but it’s seasonal, and I have a happy lamp for that.” I followed, “I mean, hasn’t everyone from time to time?” The miscommunication was sidesplitting once we realized Grace was talking about hot paninis and not mental health issues, but it did get me wondering how many people might be feeling some variation of downcast lately, whether it be because of the season, politics, issues in their personal or work life, or just their biology. 

The signature latte in question

January was, in essence, the taking down of cheerful holiday lights, the drives back to work that grow drearier by the day, and the slow realization that the insolent Jack Frost is here to stay. Many Americans start falling into the rut of being low-energy, negative, and struggling mentally. With an election year on top of it, the levels of stress and anxiety around the country have only served as the cherry on top.

Some of us turn to escapism tactics like online shopping and celebrity drama. All in good fun, too much of anything is a bad thing. One Sunday night of wine and tears is excusable, but frequenting such activities is—say it all together now—self-destructive and detrimental to our well-being. I may not have all the answers or even relatively decent ones, but I’ve decided a list of ways to stay somewhat sane this winter is as good a start as any. Like Voltaire said, “Life is a shipwreck, but we must not forget to sing in the lifeboats.”

Immersing myself in art is always a great way to get out of my head and appreciate my surroundings
  1. Practice Daily Gratitude: 
    • Focusing on things we’re grateful for can help shift our perspectives and make us feel less overwhelmed, especially during challenging moments. Whether you write out a list or just say it to yourself as it comes, practicing gratitude can encourage you to remember what you have, no matter how small, and foster a sense of stability within you.
  2. Accept Your Emotions: 
    • Acknowledging our emotions instead of hiding or trying to change them can help us prevent emotional build-up. We shouldn’t judge ourselves for feeling upset but instead, accept our negative emotions for what they are and use them to navigate our life with more clarity. 
  3. Get Off Your Phone:
    • Taking a break from our phones can help reduce stress and anxiety by limiting our exposure to negative news and social media. It also allows us to be present and make deeper connections with what is right in front of us daily.
  4. Set Small, Achievable Goals:
    •  Setting small goals can lead to more celebrations that boost our confidence and make progress more satisfying. By breaking up our long-term goals into more manageable steps, we can make our dreams feel more attainable. 
  5. Laugh With Friends:
    • Getting together with friends provides us with a sense of belonging that can help offset the stressors in our lives. Additionally, our friends serve as a great support system that can lift our dopamine levels!
  6. Avoid Negative Language: 
    • Positive self-talk opens our minds up to the possibility of things going our way. If we are constantly looking for the bad in us and our surroundings, we’re more likely to find it in everything. This can cloud our perception and send us into a spiral. Oppositely, if we train our brains to look for the good first, we can actually lessen our anxieties.
  7. Get Yourself a Little Treat: 
    • Of course, rewarding ourselves with even something small provides a psychological boost and solidifies a method of self-care during tough times. It serves as a reminder that we deserve kindness and moments of joy, especially when we need it most.
  8. Ask For Help
    • If you’re feeling like your emotions are weighing heavier than you can handle, it’s important to reach out to a professional who can offer support. Talking to a therapist or counselor can help you navigate through any kind of tough time. We don’t have to go through it alone, and there’s no shame in asking for help when we need it.
Have yourself a warm Sunday brunch at Cafe Landwer! Boston Students can get $10 off their first mobile order when they use the code LANDWERSTUDENT

Brenna Sheets is a graduate student in Emerson College’s Writing and Publishing M.A. program. She is currently a teacher, specializing in middle school history. Her hobbies include going on long walks, watching bad television, reading, and writing.

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Just Around the Corner: Ambo

February 4th, 2025

Aidann Gia, Pace University

Indian cuisine is one of my favorite foods, particularly when the school season has been droning on and academic work has grown tedious. I typically take the New Jersey transit or the PATH train to Hoboken for affordable, quality dishes. This is not always a feasible option for me when I crave garlic naan, considering I’m a student in the financial district of Manhattan. Ambo, a fast-food Indian eatery, stands by the New York University campus, which is much more convenient to travel to compared to crossing state lines. Marilisa, one of my close friends from school, and I ate a simple, but delectable lunch at their establishment. 

The simple storefront display, showcasing their quirky chalkboard menu to customers.

The vegan samoas had a chewy, doughy exterior with peas and an easy-to-eat textured center. The garlic naan, packaged in foil to keep hot, was adorned with minced garlic toasted into the bread and layered butter. The dark, golden brown bottoms added a crunchy texture to style soft tops.

I ordered a bowl of marinated chicken, mashed potatoes, basmati rice, seasoned chickpeas, and assorted chopped vegetables. The soft, surprisingly sweet potatoes seemed to melt in my mouth. A heaping portion of slightly spicy turmeric rice paired nicely with the bed of chickpeas, along with the bitterness of the diced tomatoes. The chicken stood out as the strongest contender in the match to be the most powerful flavor. It was soft, well-cooked, and deeply marinated in a savory sauce, with biryani dressing drizzled on top. Marilisa, on the other hand, selected a falafel bowl with eggplant dip and plain rice.

Our noticeably different lunch bowls, alongside our foil-wrapped samosas and garlic naan.

”I think the chickpeas were nice with the sweet mango chutney. The potatoes with—I think turmeric—elevated it nicely. The cucumber raita was definitely classic and refreshing,” she noted.

To cleanse our pallets, we enjoyed the creamy and sweet house-made alphonso mango lassi. If I had to suggest one item that anyone would enjoy, it would be this sugary bottle of energy. I personally am not a mango fan, yet this rich, luscious beverage would be the main reason I return to Ambo. 

The multitude of candies and treats available for purchase on exhibition.

Marilisa voiced her final thoughts, “Prices are really good for the amount of food they give you and great quality. A nice spot for 1-4 people to sit and eat. Cutely decorated and has great variety!”

One of our main takeaways of the restaurant was that it served delectable, authentic, simple Indian food in an area geographically in proximity to our school. The prices were student-friendly with the offered discount and the location wasn’t packed with people, allowing us to get our food in a timely manner. We enjoyed the smooth mango lassi the most, but also found great enjoyment in the bowls themselves. I would return for their chicken shawarma, though I would try out the tacos instead.

The quaint establishment is home to shelves of foreign candy, a kitchen of well-balanced meals, and seats full of happy, stuffed customers. Ambo is offering students a discount when they present the coupon below and their valid student ID.

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Just Around the Corner: ZaZu Mediterranean Street Food

February 4th, 2025

Aidann Gia, Pace University

With the ball starting to rapidly run off this semester, it’s difficult to find time in between class, work, and social hour to cook a meal that hits all of the major food groups. I visited Zazu with my friend Paolo after my last class of the day. We ordered an assortment of classic Mediterranean dishes and left with bloated stomachs, paper take-out bags, and plenty of time to spare. 

The classically clean and minimalist interior.

The two of us browsed the wide variety of ingredients we could add to our bowls and pita, then proceeded to sit at Zazu’s sleek light wood tables, complemented by their white brick walls. Around us were friends casually chatting and catching up, adding to the laid-back ambiance of the fast-food restaurant. The food took little to no time to make, and our orders were set out for us to pick up. First, we ate the appetizers.

”The falafel had a crunchy exterior, soft interior, and great flavor,” Paolo noted. “The loaded fries were crispy, with a perfect balance of meat, sauce, and garnish,” 

I enjoyed the moist, stuffed falafel. It was covered in toasted sesame seeds with pickled onions inside and perfectly toasted bottoms. I preferred it with tzatziki sauce. The crunchy pita chips were well-seasoned and tasted best as an additional textured food to the other sides. They were light and airy, compared to the dense and packed falafel. As for the loaded fries, the colorful mix of pickles, tomatoes, onions tied the flavors together and enhanced the beef shawarma topping. The beef gave the bowl a filling portion of meat, improving the taste of Zazu’s slightly salty and crispy french fries. My shawarma bowl was brimming in vegetables, rice, and marinated chicken. It stuffed me more than the appetizers had, making the affordable lunch worth its price. 

The loaded fries, shawarma bowl, drinks, and small sides laid out just before we devoured them!

”I thought the chicken shawarma pita had very filling and hearty portions. It was stuffed with chicken, pickles, lettuce, and sauce,” Paolo reviewed after his main course. 

For students seeking a quick bite, but laying off Chipotle prices and food, Zazu is a great, lesser known spot to visit. Portions match their prices, and take-out boxes may be necessary afterwards. I devoured their pita chips and loaded fries the most. None of the menu items we ate were unpleasant nor remotely close to it. I love the tangy, lingering flavors from the dressings and sauces from Mediterranean food, which is evident in the food served here, as well. 

My colorful dinner consisting of onions, mixed greens, tomatoes, hummus, rice, and chicken shawarma.

Paolo finalized his thoughts, “It is a great place if you’re looking for something quick and fresh to eat. They also have a big seating area for you to relax and eat peacefully.”

Zazu is offering students 20% off when they show their valid student ID and Campus Clipper coupon below.

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Just Around the Corner: Red Beard Coffee

January 29th, 2025

Aidann Gia, Pace University

When my friends and family are unable to find me in my apartment or on-campus, there is a common third place I will tend to frequent in between my LinkedIn meetings or club events: coffee shops. There is nothing more necessary for a college student than an open, safe space to study and send emails with easy access to caffeine. Though, this can be pricier when students need to cafe crawl. I recently ventured to Red Beard Coffee with my friend Paolo for an affordable brunch and experience. We were pleasantly surprised with our time there.

Friends and families took up the seats within the cafe, rambling about inane drama from their high school days or the latest gossip about their sister’s brother in law. It was a social cafe, where individuals joined a collective conversation while consuming Turkish delights and assorted pastries. 

Turkish delight paired with Turkish coffee and a petite glass of water.

Paolo and I started with drinks: an oat milk mocha and a Pineapple Paradise juice for him, then an iced oat milk hazelnut latte and a Green Antioxidant Fusion juice for me. The freshly blended beverages were made in-house and bottled for customers when they needed a refreshing sip. My latte was far from bitter, and semi-sweet, perfected by its nutty undertones and espresso kick. The mocha was foamy, with simple latte art and subtle notes of chocolate. The contrast of the juices were evident, as the natural-tasting flavors of kale, spinach, celery, and lemon seeped through. The pineapple, cucumber, apple blend was light in sweetness and washed down the heavy flavors of our meal. 

Cihan Cakmak, the kind bearded man from behind the counter, offered us Turkish delights and Turkish coffee. Him and his colleague were both from the beautiful country of unique pottery and inexplicable landscapes. He served the dessert and steaming espresso on petite ceramic platters. The bitterness of the Turkish coffee was something we eventually came to like, though it may be an acquired taste. We broke up our sips with bites of the delight for a pinch of sweetness. Paolo finished his quickly, clearly in favor of the sugary treat.

The beautiful avocado toast to share.

We shared an avocado toast, adorned with sprinkled pomegranate seeds and topped with fresh greens and halved cherry tomatoes. I appreciated the avocado’s mashed and spread form, rather than left in sliced chunks that would make it a rather difficult experience for the consumer. Our main courses for the early afternoon were served on pastel-pink dishes: a stunning lox and cream cheese bagel and a prosciutto-arugula sandwich. The crunchiness of the bread with fresh mozzarella, cornichons, olive oil, and delicately sweet balsamic glaze harmonized in a singular bite. It was an utterly delicious prosciutto sandwich. Paolo claimed his lox resembled sushi-grade salmon, with the dill pairing nicely. The onions and capers emphasized the other tangy and citrusy flavors. Underneath, a bed of plain cream cheese served as a smooth base to balance the eccentric tastes within the doughy, chewy bagel. 

Our assorted brunch spread.

With the buttons on my jeans barely hanging on, we ordered several desserts. Placed on speckled platters were a slice of torta caprese bianca cake, a pecan bar, and a classic layered brookie. The lemon-flavored bianca cake, a gluten free menu item, was tart and dense. The pecan bar oozed with caramel and broke easily, necessary when sharing with friends. The brookie was more of a tougher brownie with a thin layer of cookie dough resting on top. None of the desserts were sickly sweet and quite enjoyable with our coffees. 

For students looking for a chatty, lively atmosphere with affordable brunch options and a wide selection of beverages to quench their thirst, Red Beard Coffee is a smart choice. Partnered with Campus Clipper, the establishment is offering 20% off to students who show their valid ID and the coupon below. 

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Just Around the Corner: Kamisama Ramen

January 29th, 2025

Aidann Gia Bacolodan, Pace University

Sans woolen mittens or insulated coat pockets, my hands have fallen still, turning them into blossoms of crimson and patches of dry skin cracking in between my fingers. Winter is a rough time for students, especially in New York City, when most of us walk between stations and are without the comforts of automatic heated car seats. I escaped the cold and my naked hands were able to find a warm safe haven, taking hiatus from the wintry weather. One beautiful and quaint restaurant welcomed me for an evening to enjoy the warmth of a flavorful broth and my personal comfort food, ramen. 

Kamisama Ramen, located in the East Village of Manhattan, seats its hungry guests at their dark, wooden tables, just a few feet away from their inviting bar stocked with drinks from various cultures. The lighting is dim and intimate, setting the mood for dinner with your close friends, loved ones, or a partner. The bustling of puffer jackets and windbreakers eventually subside and my friend Emmely sits with me at a table for two. We are greeted by a cheerful waiter, while we are slightly distressed with pale faces and flushed cheeks. Ramen was just what we needed and the environment perfectly set the mood.

“The restaurant had a warm, cozy atmosphere with a small, intimate setting,” Emmely reviewed. “Everything felt understated in the best way. Nothing over the top, just simple and inviting.”

Crispy, deep-fried kaarage paired with a spicy mayo dipping sauce.

The appetizer section ran wide, from tako wasabi to agedashi tofu, catering to customers with varying pallets. We selected the green ocean seaweed salad with sesame oil. This was followed by one of my favorites, takoyaki, which are deep fried pancake balls stuffed with octopus. They were buttery and heavy with batter, topped with salty bonito flakes. We chose gyoza, their juicy pan-fried homemade pork dumplings with its flavors heightened by hints of ginger and a green garnishing. These were toasted golden brown at the bottoms, while remaining tender and chewy throughout. To finish off, we ordered karaage perfected with spicy mayo sauce. These deep fried fatty chicken thighs were piping hot, fairly crispy, and easy to scarf down.

Half of our appetizer spread: takoyaki and seaweed salad.

The appetizer portions filled the both of us, leaving just enough space for some ramen. The portions of spicy jiro ramen and shoyu jiro ramen were heavy and hearty. Emmely devoured the heaping serving of shoyu before I could have a sip of her soup. I ordered the spicy jiro, a rewarding bowl of tangy flavor and liquid gold after walking in the brisk metropolis. The noodles were soft, light, and oily. I had no complaints. Unable to finish the entire meal, I asked the waiter for take-home packaging and devoured it the next day for lunch. It was just as good as the day before.

Emmely’s order of shoyu ramen (left) and my spicy jiro bowl (right).

Emmely and I were far from hungry by the end of our evening together. We lingered after the check was given, sitting in trepidation of the food coma that would come if we were to stand too quickly and walk on bursting stomachs. The staff were kind and attentive during the entirety of our meal. I truly appreciated the sizes of their appetizers and Emmely favored their shoyu ramen. Once ready to bear the cold again, we grabbed our jackets from the coat hanger, standing just next to a large space heater.

”I feel like this is the perfect place for those busy weekdays when you need a quick, casual hangout with friends,” Emmely concluded.

My friends and I will be returning to Kamisama Ramen. It’s not a far commute from school and has a wide variety for those who love Japanese cuisine. During the late January nights, when students are in dire need of a warm pick-me-up, it is an easy recommendation to stop by Kamisama for dinner. They are offering students a 10% discount when students show their valid college ID and the coupon attached below!

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The Digital Detox: Taking a break from technology or each other?

January 22nd, 2025

At one time or another, we’ve all seen a dramatic announcement on someone’s Instagram story. Their vague text post reads a little something like this:

Deleting Insta. If you need me and you’re important enough, you have my number. To the rest of you, good luck finding me.

While I enjoy a casual cup of tea, these updates from random acquaintances always fall a little flat. There’s a notion to send a “Hope you’re okay!” DM, but they’re supposedly deleting their account any second now. Then there’s the passive-aggressive ‘Good luck’ that’s a bit off-putting. I can only envision myself responding to something like this if a close friend posted it, to which I would reply, “Lol, delete this.” 

Another kind of ‘logging off’ post I’ve seen an uptick of since New Year’s is the foreshadowing announcement, which says, “You may have inside access to my amazing life now, but one day I’ll disappear, and you’ll be left to wonder!” I’ve provided some examples:

Digital Detox posts about leaving social media eventually.

Is it… poetry? Is it… a Divergent aptitude test? Is it a rhetorical speech prompting us, who are tied at the hips of social media moguls, to revert to nature and solitude like the transcendentalists of the 19th century?

Even if we are leaving, we want people to hear our footsteps and notice our absence. It is human nature to want to be seen, to be known, and to want others to care; these desires are the origins of these posts. Even though it’s easy to see through the attention-seeking nature of it all, an interesting conversation is raised about the broader topic of digital detoxes and their effectiveness, or lack thereof.

A digital detox is ​​an active choice to disengage from social media, or even all media-related electronics, for a specific time. The forms of limitations depend on the person. Many people just delete social media off their phones and log back in at the end of the day, week, or month. Other people go as far as not using their laptop outside of work and choosing to read instead of watch TV.

In our chronically digital age, how far does a digital detox really go? And is it more performative than anything? One has to wonder if you couldn’t announce it to the world, and if no one even noticed your absence, would so many people really be preaching about temporarily deleting social media? 

Social media posts about digital detoxes.

People go on digital detoxes for various reasons, including to protect their mental health, be more active, live in the moment, and be more grateful. As more users struggle with social media addictions, taking a break from the apps can also help them regain control over their time. While I see the benefits of a digital detox, I feel that the true problem is something deeper. 

Perhaps what people need the biggest break from is the facade-filled algorithm, and there are two ends to this dilemma. Suppose you’re constantly seeing videos and pictures of people with their Mercedes, MiuMiu bags, marble kitchens, model boyfriends, and more. In that case, you’ll likely start to think everyone else has hit the jackpot in life, and you’ve been left in the dust. This, of course, can cloud your perception of reality, hurting your mental well-being.

I think Whitney from Momtok really sums up the whole deal.

The bold and the beautiful swarming your feed can do damage, but I’d argue what’s worse is the number of ordinary people closer to home who are constantly faking their realities on the internet, too. Truly, how many times do we have to see a millennial post their scrub partner and/or their feral children when we know, behind half-cracked doors, they’re having affairs and are on the brink–God willing–of a divorce that their friends would be most pleased about? I’m all for showing off your new set of acrylics or your latest winter read, but showing off a life you’re not even actually happy with? Unnecessary, and a bit sad. 

Whenever I see someone announce their digital detox, it is usually because someone else online has bothered them, and they want everyone else to know it. They are calling attention to the fact that we’re not our true selves when we’re behind a screen, and sometimes, we’re way worse. Though they may be annoying, they’re not totally wrong. We’re performing for each other, and it’s not the far-away influencers that get to us in the end, but the people we know personally who got the ‘social’ part all wrong. We should know by now not to share everything, but not to masquerade either. 

It’s time we start navigating social media with more authenticity and more autonomy (and possibly fewer pictures of babies? Thanks). Next time you’re feeling like taking a digital detox, don’t announce it, but do ask yourself: Is it too much MiuMiu, too many daddies hiding behind alcohol dependencies, or both? 

Take a break from your phone and treat yourself to a tech-free spa day at Best MG Spa in Allston! Students get 20% off with this coupon and student ID.

Brenna Sheets is a graduate student in Emerson College’s Writing and Publishing M.A. program. She is currently a teacher, specializing in middle school history. Her hobbies include going on long walks, watching bad television, reading, and writing.

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Let’s Talk About Boundaries, Baby!

January 13th, 2025

Welcome to a year focused on self-care and wellness, because we need it!

While many, many news articles in the last 10 days have put the tightest knots in my stomach, I’d prefer to focus on things more in my control. An overlooked benefit of living in 2025 is our transparency with personal boundaries and how to use them. So long to the days of people-pleasing to the point of exhaustion; say farewell to conversations about overstimulation being taboo; and, lastly, good riddance to making ourselves uncomfortable for the sake of perception alone.

Over break, I spent some time lounging at hotel pools, which is one of my favorite self-care activities!

Boundaries can look like many things, but for the most part, they are simply the lines we draw for ourselves in terms of our level of comfort around others. They can involve physical contact, verbal interactions, personal space, emotions, romance, time, individual belongings, and even the workplace. Here are some quick examples:

  • Not wanting a friend, family member, or coworker to speak down to you is a verbal boundary.
  • Not feeling comfortable when others show up at your house without warning is a personal space boundary. 
  • Protecting your ability to do your work without interference or drama, especially that which extends outside the workplace, is a work-life boundary. 

There are all kinds of boundaries, and the best part is that all of them are valid!

I’ll be the first to say that, for the majority of my life, I was undoubtedly an extreme people-pleaser, and this made it very hard for me to set boundaries. I didn’t know how to handle confrontation, and I didn’t like taking risks. What if I tried to set a boundary, and I lost my friend in the process? I had a few lines that couldn’t be crossed, of course, but for the most part, I often held my tongue, fuming in my discomfort, to maintain some variation of peace and order. This was not a win-win situation, as at the end of the day I had gone against my desires, and I’d built up a resentment towards those I’d done so for. 

As an introvert, I need a lot of time to decompress. After work and class, I tend not to take phone calls or FaceTime unless there’s an emergency to protect my alone time.

It wasn’t until I left Florida and started working full-time (How I miss the days of living off scholarship money) that I realized how important boundaries are. With most of the sunlit day spent at the hands of the dollar, every ounce of free time I now have is something I cherish to the utmost degree. I have less time to spend at this point in my life, so I want to spend it on the right things. if I let people waste that time, I’ll feel more burnt out and irritated than ever.

The fact of the matter is, as you get older, you learn that the approval of others just can’t come at your sacrifice.  Now at 25, I don’t waste my energy trying to prove myself to people who don’t see my worth— and let’s face it, as a woman, I’m just all too tired of that anyway. With all of the trials and tribulations of being a full-on adult, you get to a point in time where a question starts to loom over your head: How much crap are you willing to take, and who from?

While I’d like to tell you the answer is “NONE AND FROM NO ONE,” that’s simply not the world we live in. However, if you start to feel exhausted, angry, or upset consistently because of a certain person or situation, it may be time to set some boundaries.

Another self-care activity I enjoy is cooking. Here, I made fried rice with veggies and tofu!

Setting boundaries has become a more open and honest topic today, but the conversation can still be hard depending on who you’re talking to. Feeling awkward and even guilty is normal, and you can factor in the possibility that the other party will be defensive, too. Nevertheless, it’s important to stand your ground and let it be known that you and your time are valuable! Setting boundaries is a form of self-respect and self-care. Here are some helpful tips to keep in mind as you start the new year looking out for you:

1. Know Your Limits

Before setting boundaries, you should take some time to reflect on when you do and don’t feel your best. What drains your energy? What makes you feel respected? Recognizing these limits can help you define clear boundaries before telling them to someone else.

2. Communicate Clearly and Assertively

Be direct and honest when communicating your needs. For example, in work, say, “I’m unable to take on extra tasks this week.” Point-blank. Also, in social or romantic relationships, don’t feel afraid to express what you need to feel comfortable. Any friend or partner will be able to understand that you’re coming from a good place. That conversation could start with something like “I love our time together, but after work, I need space to recharge by myself.”

3. Be Consistent

Enforce your boundaries consistently. If you let them slide occasionally, it can confuse others and undermine your efforts. Gently remind people when a boundary is crossed. While everyone is human and makes mistakes, if someone constantly disobeys your boundaries, it may be a sign that they don’t take you seriously and that your relationship is not mutually beneficial. 

4. Learn to Say No

It’s okay to say no without feeling guilty! Practice it in small, low-stakes situations to build confidence. Saying no is an act of self-respect, not selfishness, despite those who may say otherwise.

5. Respect Others’ Boundaries

Respect the boundaries of others, too. One of the best ways to get comfortable with our boundary-setting is to have the ability to recognize when others are setting boundaries. If we can be mindful of those around us, then we can expect them to do the same.

Spend some me-time and get 20% off at Gloria’s Beauty Center in Allston with your student ID!

Brenna Sheets is a graduate student in Emerson College’s Writing and Publishing M.A. program. She is also a teacher, currently specializing in middle school history. Her hobbies include going on long walks, reading and writing, and watching bad television.

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Just Around the Corner: DH Noodle

December 26th, 2024

DH Noodle is one of those spots that feels like a warm hug as soon as you walk in. The wooden tables, soft lighting, and cozy vibe make it the perfect escape from a busy day. Whether you’re catching up with friends or just looking for a quiet moment, the welcoming atmosphere and incredible food make it hard to leave.

The scallion pancakes are a game-changer—crispy, flaky, and packed with flavor. Pair them with one of their refreshing boba teas, and you’ve got the perfect combo. The menu has something for everyone, from steaming noodle soups to small plates you’ll want to share (or not). Plus, they’re always adding new items, so there’s always a good excuse to come back.

DH Noodle is offering college students a discount when they present the Campus Clipper coupon and their valid student ID.

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