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Crash Course Connections Ch. 9: Saying Goodbye

Thursday, August 14th, 2025

Part of me wishes college could last forever. The dorm sleepovers, late-night library hang-outs and chaotic coffee runs. Even the lecture halls hold a kind of charm. There’s a certain beauty to the rhythm of university life. Beyond aesthetics, it’s the final step before entering the adult world. It’s the last time you and your friends share the same calendar, the same milestones, the same breaks and goalposts.

But eventually, everything ends. And with that comes goodbye.

Friends tossing caps after graduating college. Credit: https://images

It’s not just a farewell to the school, professors and classes. You’re also saying goodbye to your friends. Some are close. Others are what I’d call “friends of convenience”. That may sound harsh, but it’s honest. These are people you see every day because your schedules align. You bond through routine, not necessarily through deep connection. And once the routine ends, so often does the friendship.

That doesn’t make those friendships less real, and this isn’t unique to college. You’ve had these kinds of relationships in high school, at jobs, summer camps and internships. You will continue to have these relationships throughout your life. Even when built around convenience, those friendships can be meaningful. They can brighten your day, get you through tough mornings or give you a reason to show up just to sit beside someone in class.

When those connections start to fade, it doesn’t mean they weren’t valuable. Sometimes life simply doesn’t allow space to maintain every relationship. And that’s okay.

Even the friendships you cherish most will shift. The closeness you feel while living in the same dorm, eating together every day and sharing every stress is hard to sustain. Eventually, you drift. Maybe not right away. Maybe you’ll live together after graduation or try to keep the same rhythm. But new jobs, routines and people will start to fill your time. The tight-knit group you once built becomes a web of separate paths. There might still be overlap, but there will also be space.

So this goodbye is just the end of a chapter. The story continues, you’re simply turning the page.

Winnie the Poo “Saying Goodbye” graphic. Credit: https://images.app

In a world where we’re all hyperconnected, physical distance isn’t the challenge it used to be. You can still meet up, plan reunions, send a message when someone crosses your mind. What you’re really saying goodbye to is the ease of it all. The built-in structure that made friendship simple. Letting go of that doesn’t mean losing the people entirely. It just means accepting change.

As I start my senior year, I’m writing this as both reflection and preparation. Part of me wants time to stop, to stay in this space a little longer. But most of me is ready for what’s next. Change is hard, but it’s also what makes life beautiful. It’s what gives this chapter meaning.

So here’s to this final year. I’m choosing to embrace it fully. To give myself grace when I mess up. To appreciate the ease while it’s still here.

Thanks for reading, and goodbye!


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By Logan O’Connor

Logan is a rising senior at NYU pursuing degrees in Journalism and Politics. She grew up on Long Island, but always dreamed of living in New York City. When she’s not in class or at her favorite local cafe, you can find her wandering the city (film camera in hand) or baking up a storm in her kitchen.


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Crash Course Connections Ch. 8: Friends In Your Field

Tuesday, August 5th, 2025

Some step into college with a ten-year plan. They know exactly what they want to do, the internships they’re gunning for, and the career ladder they plan to climb. It’s impressive, intimidating even. But that wasn’t me. I came in with a vague idea of my interests, a few broad passions, and absolutely no clue what I wanted to pursue after graduation.

And honestly? That’s completely okay.

The early years of college are meant for exploration. It’s the time to take random electives, try clubs you never considered in high school, and let yourself lean into curiosity without pressure. Even those people who seemed so sure of their path sometimes end up pivoting dramatically. Plans change. Passions evolve. Eventually, things start to click into place, and when they do, that’s when you begin building real connections in your field.

Networking graphic via LinkedIn

Now, “networking” is a word that tends to freak people out. It sounds stiff and transactional, like you’re collecting business cards at a conference you don’t want to be at. But in college, networking often looks completely different. It can be fun, casual, and surprisingly effortless when it stems from shared experiences.

As you find your footing—through classes, clubs, on-campus jobs, or student orgs—you start to naturally gravitate toward others with similar interests. Maybe you’re working late on the layout for the student magazine and end up bonding over coffee with the other photographers. Maybe you spark a conversation with the person sitting next to you in your chemistry class or chat with students after a panel on the future of medicine. These little moments grow into friendships, and those friendships become a network before you even realize it.

That’s what happened to me. As I dove deeper into my major, I found myself surrounded by people with similar goals, challenges, and curiosities. I started getting to know professors better, not just as instructors but as mentors. Classmates became collaborators, motivators, and friends. These relationships weren’t built on LinkedIn messages or polished resumes, but they were built on late-night study sessions, group projects, and shared enthusiasm for our field.

Networking of creatives caught in action at NYU Baedeker travel magazine’s “Welcome” meeting, 2024.

These connections have been more than just social. They’ve opened doors, pushed me to grow, and reminded me that I’m not in this alone. Friends in your field can serve as both healthy competition and sources of inspiration. They’re the ones who share the application link to a niche internship, encourage you to pitch that story idea, or drag you to a lecture from a visiting professional who ends up reshaping your perspective entirely.

If you’re a creative, these friendships can be especially meaningful. They teach you how to take your talent seriously, how to value your work, and sometimes, how to monetize it. You might not intend to make your hobby as a writer or ceramicist your career, but being around others who do can push you to go beyond casual practice and explore what’s really possible.

What started for me as stress-baking during finals week eventually led to setting up a bake sale table in Washington Square Park with a couple of friends. We sold out that day and even turned a profit. Now, we’re making plans to host more pop-up sales in the future. It’s the kind of thing I never would have done on my own. But with the encouragement, creativity, and practical support of the friends I’d met through shared passions, the idea came to life. Their belief in me helped transform something small and personal into something I could be proud of.

Proof of bake sale success, as captured by my friend and fellow vendor Vimary.

So don’t stress if you don’t have it all figured out right away. The beauty of college is in the discovery– in trying new things, failing a little, and eventually finding your people. And when you do, you’ll realize that some of the most valuable career connections you’ll ever make started as simple conversations.

Your future is shaped not just by what you study, but by who you grow with along the way.


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By Logan O’Connor

Logan is a rising senior at NYU pursuing degrees in Journalism and Politics. She grew up on Long Island, but always dreamed of living in New York City. When she’s not in class or at her favorite local cafe, you can find her wandering the city (film camera in hand) or baking up a storm in her kitchen.


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Crash Course Connections Ch 1: New Beginnings

Wednesday, June 11th, 2025

Coming to college is starting from scratch—an exciting, sometimes nerve-wracking, chapter of life filled with possibility. Whether you’re attending a school close to home or heading off to a new city, college offers a fresh start. And before you’ve even found your footing, the pressure to find your new best friends can be overwhelming. Lucky for you, this pressure is universal, and you are far from alone.

Those first few weeks on campus are nonetheless crucial for laying the groundwork for new friendships. Everyone is adjusting, finding their classes, navigating dorm life, and figuring out where the best coffee is. During this time, people are especially open to meeting others, so be sure to take advantage.

Go to orientation events, campus tours, welcome mixers, and even cheesy icebreaker activities. These are designed to help you meet people and start conversations. You never know; your future best friend might be your accomplice in sneaking into the succulent planting welcome event that you never got off the waitlist for. That might sound oddly specific, but that is precisely how I made my first, and closest, friend here. 

We met in the first week before classes had even started, but it was only once we found ourselves appearing at the same social events time and time again that we became close. We started to realize all of our shared interests, from cafe-hopping to art museums, and just like that I had found a partner in crime. It is with her, my friend Ambika, that I met my other now roommate Taylor, and we quickly became a nearly inseparable unit. 

The “unit” in question- (right to left) Ambika, Taylor, and me

 It will likely happen like this, if it hasn’t already, for you as well. You have to be open to the opportunity, but the right acquaintances will, with both rapid speed and gradual commitment, become family. So maybe keep your headphones out at the school bookstore, compliment that girl’s jacket, and dive into a conversation about how you both love thrifting. Let the world in, and I guarantee the rest will fall into place. 

 Join clubs, sports teams, or student organizations that interest you. Whether it’s an intramural volleyball league, the school newspaper, or a club for people who love baking, getting involved is a fantastic way to meet people with shared interests. These groups give you a natural space to interact and bond without the pressure of having to “make friends” on the spot.

You also don’t need a big circle of friends. In fact, it’s often better to focus on forming a few genuine connections. Meet as many people as you can handle, but don’t feel pressured to sustain all of these relationships. If you click with someone- great! Follow -up, grab coffee, and invite them on outings or to group hangouts. If you are finding it difficult to deepen a friendship, try stepping back and directing that energy towards expanding your network or fostering other connections you’ve made. 

Remember, friendships take time to grow. You might not find “your people” in the first week or even the first month, and that’s okay. Keep showing up. Keep reaching out. Be open to different ideas and perspectives, and talk to as many people as possible. 

Reinventing yourself in college can be exciting, especially when you’re in a new environment. While growth is a natural part of the process, try not to lose sight of who you are. The strongest bonds come from a foundation of authenticity. Let people get to know the real you—the you that loves photography, longs to travel, despises techno music, and has strong opinions about politics.

Vulnerability is scary, especially when you don’t know anyone yet and you don’t want to close any doors. But being honest invites others to do the same, and in turn allows you to filter out the people who were never meant to stay in your life.

You will also feel lonely at times, especially in the beginning, when your family is done helping you unpack and you’re left sitting in your dorm room alone. This is all a part of the process. Everyone experiences moments of homesickness, anxiety, or awkwardness during the transition. It’s not only normal but expected. I assure you, it will pass. But, in the meantime, reach out for comfort—turn to a roommate or call a hometown friend. 

College is about so much more than academics. It’s about the relationships you build, the memories you make, and the people who will shape your journey. Friendships will evolve over time. Some will be short-lived, others lifelong. All of them will teach you something.

So take that first step. Say hello. Sit down at a new table, because you never know who will be sitting across from you.

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By Logan O’Connor

Logan is a rising senior at NYU pursuing degrees in Journalism and Politics. She grew up on Long Island, but always dreamed of living in New York City. When she’s not in class or at her favorite local cafe, you can find her wandering the city (film camera in hand) or baking up a storm in her kitchen.


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The Grind Doesn’t Stop Until You’re Dead

Thursday, August 22nd, 2024

We Americans have the Protestant work ethic baked into our bones. Though Gen Z is significantly less religious than our parents and ancestors, we’ve successfully secularized and rebranded the Protestant work ethic for younger generations. Now, we simply call it “the grind” — a word that encapsulates (yet also glamorizes) the drudgery of day- to- day life. 

Though both male and female influencers contribute to grind culture, it has earned particular cache in the “manosphere.” In these toxic, male-dominated spaces, podcastors mythologize the “sigma male,” a self-stated lone wolf who chooses to isolate himself because “the grind never stops.” Such men look down upon making attachments to others and especially women, because modern women threaten a sense of masculinity lost by improved gender equality in the workplace. Often these men see womens’ increased success as a threat to their supposedly once-secure job prospects — as if those women never had the right to try and make it in this world as well. 

And make it in this world they will, or at least die trying. These types of influencers are full of bizarre tips to maximize your productivity and increase your profit. Want to make extra money on your days off? Take a paid vacation and then use that free time to work a second job! Feeling sluggish at the office? Try microdosing on psychedelics! Thinking of starting a side hustle? Invest in a pyramid scheme, or NFTs, or any other flimsy get-rich-quick scheme that will likely leave you more broke than you started out. 

Pictured: Gen Z has begun to push back against grind culture in the form of online jokes and memes. Sourced from Reddit.

The world the rise-and-grind influencers offer to us may seem like hell, and that’s because it is. But it is also not hard to imagine why they have gained a foothold in the cultural zeitgeist. After all,  is not easy for members of our generation to start their adult lives in this economy. In fact, half of Gen Z live at home with their parents, and may not have the freedom or money to socialize and go out with friends. For the commuter student in particular, it might be tempting to simply give up on trying to make friends when it’s cheaper to stay at home, put your head down, and work. And it’s comforting to think that if you simply work hard enough, even past the breaking point, that you will be able to live well — that your Protestant-work-ethic-sans-the-Protestant will afford you a clean, well-lit office in Midtown Manhattan.

Perhaps the greatest irony of the rise-and-grinders and then, is that they are not living well, or even doing what is best for their careers. First, if you’re a man, training yourself to dismiss women out of hand — when we make up half the population, half the workforce, and more than half of college students — is not exactly a winning strategy for success. Speaking more generally, isolating yourself from others also hampers your ability to make connections that can define your career path. 

But even if these lifestyle influencers are right, and becoming an all-work-no-play hermit is the best thing you can do for your career, it still wouldn’t be worth it. For the lifestyle they promote is hollow and lackluster, like a millstone that has been ground to dust. 

After all, what is the “grind,” anyway? Oftentimes, if these influencers are not trying to sell you on one scam or another, they speak very vaguely about the actual work they do. This is because the “grind” cannot be anything that matters to you. It is simply non-specific, meaningless work only meant to propel you to the next stages of your career (if it does that). You’re not supposed to like the grind — you’re not even supposed to care what it is, even though it presumably defines nearly every moment of your life. 

To someone who has embraced this mentality, it may appear I am missing the point. Yes, the grind is simply a means to an end, a tool to accumulate wealth and power. But remember, “the grind never stops” — meaning there is no light at the end of the tunnel, no moment you can simply kick back and relax. Even if you’re rich or happy with your success, you are supposed to continue working for work’s sake — repeating the same routine ad nauseum until you die.

And what’s the joy in that? What’s the joy in working to earn a job with more vacation days, if you can’t use them? What’s the joy in making more money, if you can’t use it to have fun with others? Perhaps this is why, after a certain level, having more money does not increase happiness.

Pictured: Data collected by The World Happiness Report on the correlation between wealth and happiness. Happiness initially jumps with increased wealth, but starts to plateau after a certain point. This suggests that once financial security is met, additional money does not have much of a positive effect.

The Protestants lived short, difficult lives. They worked so hard partially because it was necessary for survival, and partially because work gave them a sense of order and purpose in a chaotic new world. They sought to put people in corners — men on one side, women on the other — and keep them there using intense mechanisms of social conditioning and public shame. Once again, this was to create order in their otherwise chaotic, difficult, and fleeting lives. 

Life is still chaotic, but it’s gotten much longer since the Protestants. We’ve learned we don’t have to confine human potential to have a stable society — in fact, doing so causes quite the opposite. And unlike the Puritans, we have a choice. We can grind ourselves down to the quick, or we can enjoy our days in the sun, alongside our friends and family. So when you reach the end of your life, what do you want to remember? The millstone, whole and hardy, or only the dust it has left behind?


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By Renee Ricevuto

Renee Ricevuto is pursuing a double major in English and Music at Hunter College, along with a certificate from the Thomas Hunter Honors Program. She has published her work at the University of Chicago’s Harper Review and received writing awards at her institution. She’s currently working on a research project with the Mellon Public Humanities and Social Justice Scholarship Program. When she’s not writing or researching, she loves to read, draw, sing, and embroider.


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Let Your Freak Flag Fly

Thursday, August 8th, 2024

Growing up, adults would call me an “old soul.”

I didn’t know it at the time, but when adults call a child an “old soul,” it is almost always because that child is a bit weird and not good at connecting with people of their own age. I was certainly no exception. In the school cafeteria, I’d talk off the ear of anyone who would listen, rarely aware of whether they had any interest in what I was saying. In the school yard, rather than playing with others, I’d sit on the benches and read, or talk to the class monitor. For the fifth grade school talent show, instead of singing a song from Frozen like a normal child, I chose “Think of Me” from The Phantom of the Opera. The adults loved my elementary school impression of Christine Daae, while the little kids in the front row put their hands over their ears when I sang the high note. 

Pictured: An actual email I sent to the producer of Phantom of the Opera when I found out the show was closing. Shockingly enough, he never replied. Weird Kids turn into Weird Adults. 

However, being a Former Weird Kid has its advantages. First, I write these posts on how to make friends from the perspective of someone who has struggled to fit in and find my place. I understand it’s not as easy as simply “putting yourself out there” when people have not always responded well to me when I’ve done just that. There’s nothing wrong with being weird, but weirdness does not always have a place in a world that often punishes deviations from the norm. 

I’m not suggesting you hide the weird or unique side of yourself in order to get people to like you. In fact, I’m advocating for quite the opposite: while I did not make many friends in fifth grade, in the long run, letting my freak flag fly has helped me find a community of people who share my interests and quirks. After my performance in the talent show, a few teachers approached my mother and suggested I audition for a children’s choir in the area — the rest is history. Though I’ve since graduated from that organization, chorus is still a huge part of my life, and so are some of the “old souls” (read: weird kids) I’ve met there. 

Pictured: My old chorus and me, performing Aging Magician at San Diego’s Balboa Theatre. Thank you, Andrew Lloyd Webber. From the San Diego Union-Tribune.

So, don’t be afraid to be weird! Weirdness sets you apart, and can help you find other people who share your interests, hobbies, and hyperfixations.  And if you’re an “old soul” who struggles to connect with your peers, don’t be afraid to make friends with actual old souls — that is, people who are literally older than you. Not only can these relationships be just as (if not more!) fulfilling than ones with people your age, but research shows that having friends across age groups actually helps your brain development. At the adult chorus I currently attend, where there are folks of all ages, I’ve gotten career advice from 30-year olds, life advice from 50-year olds, and advice on how to clean cashmere (extremely helpful) from 80-year olds. So, talk to Barbara from your birdwatching group, or Mary from your accounting class. They may not end up being the shoulder you cry on when you go through, say, your first breakup, but they might give you dating advice you’ll remember years later just when you need it. They may teach you something you’ll be glad to know, whether you’re an old soul, a weird kid, or something in between. 


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By Renee Ricevuto

Renee Ricevuto is pursuing a double major in English and Music at Hunter College, along with a certificate from the Thomas Hunter Honors Program. She has published her work at the University of Chicago’s Harper Review and received writing awards at her institution. She’s currently working on a research project with the Mellon Public Humanities and Social Justice Scholarship Program. When she’s not writing or researching, she loves to read, draw, sing, and embroider.


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Friendship is a Choice

Wednesday, July 31st, 2024

There are many ways a friendship can die.

When we think about some of these ways, our mind may go to the most dramatic of scenarios. One friend blew up at the other, or got together with their ex, or otherwise did something we deem unforgivable – maybe they borrowed money and never paid it back.

Pictured: Me, upon realizing I never paid my friend back for that Uber (I am a terrible person and not even God can forgive me)

Sometimes, we forget that it’s not always the big lies and infidelities that end a friendship, but the small ones. Lies like “We should go out sometime!” with no plans of following through. Lies like “Let’s keep in touch!” followed by a phone number exchange — only to fast-forward months later to radio silence. These lies are not always intentional: we all lead busy lives, and we simply don’t have the capacity to keep everyone in them. And though we don’t always admit it to ourselves, sometimes neither person really wants to keep up a connection longer than is convenient. Either way, when we do this, we break the implicit promise of a friendship — that both sides will do the work to keep the flame alive. 

Any relationship is work. Friendships do not stay together on their own; left to their own devices, they will dissolve, leaving only the imprint of what was once there — like stitches after a surgery. The choice to do nothing may be a passive one, but it is a choice nonetheless.

The upside to this is that if we can choose to lose friends, we can also choose to make and maintain them. For many college students, making friends is often taken for granted— since everyone lives on the same campus, connecting with others can feel natural and effortless. But if you’re a commuter student, you may feel differently: a potential friend may live an hour away from school, and two hours from you. This means you will have to put in more effort at an earlier point in the friendship — which can present difficulties when you’re starting out, but will hopefully help you better develop the skills to maintain connections in the long run. 

So, you may be asking: how do I go about making friends to begin with? And then, how do I keep them? I have a few tips for you, based on my experiences trying (and sometimes failing) to forge connections at Hunter College:

1. Throw Everything at the Wall and See What Sticks:

When I first transferred to Hunter, I was determined to make friends. I decided to take the blitzkrieg approach: acquaint myself with as many people as possible, and hope that something turns into a lasting friendship. I made class group chats and discord servers, swapped numbers with classmates, and talked with students before and after classes. Not every connection I made turned into something deeper, but it’s still nice to walk through the halls and see people I recognize, who nod or wave when they see me.  

Of course, there are limits to this rule. At Hunter, there’s a guy notorious for going around the library and asking every girl he sees for their number. He has asked me out twice, my friend six times. He seems to think that if he asks enough women, someone will say yes, but as far as I know, he has had little success with his approach.

That being said, don’t approach random strangers who are not in the mindset to talk to you, and respect somebody’s boundaries if they say no. And if you’re male-presenting, know that if you ask a woman for her number, no matter how platonically you frame it, she may be understandably cagey due to guys like him.  

2. Find Who Interests You in a Room

Are you in a busy room, and don’t know who to talk to? Pick someone who you find interesting! Maybe you like their outfit, their jewelry, or the way they’ve dyed their hair. Maybe you thought they said something really thought-provoking during the class discussion, which could be a nice starting point for the conversation. And if you give someone a compliment, make sure it’s about something they’ve chosen about themselves (clothes, hairstyle, etc.) and not an innate attribute (eyes, attractiveness, etc.) Compliments on the latter may read as romantic advances, which can be off-putting if it’s the first thing you say or not appropriate for the situation.

3. Keep the Energy Going!

Once you make a friend, keep it going! And remember: relationships are reciprocal. If you feel you’re putting in more work than the other person, it’s okay to pull back. You will find people who will give you the time of day. Don’t rush or force it!

Personally, I was able to make a few lasting friendships at Hunter through a creative writing class I took over the summer. Since it was an in-person summer class, everyone was passionate about the subject, had more free time, and was happy to go out in the warm weather after class. I made two of my closest friends at Hunter there. We keep the spirit alive by starting a book club, sending each other our writers’ drafts, and yapping about literature (along with other less sophisticated topics) in Central Park. We’re still friends a year later, thanks to the effort we all put into staying in touch. 

Pictured: My friends and me, enjoying our favorite pastime: yapping in Central Park. My friend on the left is very cool and famous, so their face has been censored for privacy reasons.

So, it’s completely possible to make long-lasting friendships, even at a commuter school like Hunter! You just have to put yourself out there until the right person (or people) respond. Good luck!

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By Renee Ricevuto

Renee Ricevuto is pursuing a double major in English and Music at Hunter College, along with a certificate from the Thomas Hunter Honors Program. She has published her work at the University of Chicago’s Harper Review and received writing awards at her institution. She’s currently working on a research project with the Mellon Public Humanities and Social Justice Scholarship Program. When she’s not writing or researching, she loves to read, draw, sing, and embroider.


For over 20 years, the Campus Clipper has been offering awesome student discounts in NYC,  from the East Side to Greenwich Village. Along with inspiration, the company offers students a special coupon booklet and the Official Student Guide, which encourages them to discover new places in the city and save money on food, clothing, and services.  

At the Campus Clipper, not only do we help our interns learn new skills, make money, and create wonderful e-books, we give them a platform to teach others. Check our website for more student savings and watch our YouTube video showing off some of New York City’s finest students during the Welcome Week of 2015.

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Every Undergrad for Themselves: Finding Community at a Commuter School

Tuesday, July 23rd, 2024

There persists in America the popular image of the average college student. It comes up time and time again, in books, movies, and popular media, with the same tropes and cliches we’ve come to love. Usually, it starts with the freshman as they stumble into their first class, bright eyed and bushy-tailed — like a lamb who does not know they are being led to the slaughter. They are rarely prepared for the barrage of exams, deadlines, and testy professors that will define their life for the next few years.  

Still, the student has fun. Since they live on campus, making friends is not too difficult. They drink, go to parties, maybe join a sorority or fraternity. They stay in a cramped dorm and gain fifteen pounds at the dining halls. It’s a sort of monkish existence: the college student does not have money, but they can more or less have all their needs met within a small radius. In that way, they live in an imposed poverty, circumscribed by the confines of their campus. 

Pictured: Just guys being dudes on my campus. Image courtesy of Joe Stroppel

At least, this is how the story goes — and it’s certainly one I absorbed avidly before I went to college myself. I was told that these are not just the hallmarks of early college living, but necessary rites of passage in youth development. College is not merely a place for students to earn their degree: they also learn how to live separate from their parents, as a kind of trial-run for adulthood.  And yet, as I was soon to find out, this image does not reflect reality for all students, especially those who do not live on campus. In fact, as many as a quarter of college students reside with their parents and commute to school — meaning no dorms, no meal plans, and no 5-minute sprints between bedrooms and learning halls to catch 8 AM classes.

 On the surface, this might seem easier: students in this position can theoretically dip their toes into adulthood with the help of their parents, instead of being pushed into the deep end by choosing to dorm. But the reality is often the opposite: not only might students take this option simply because they cannot afford housing costs, but they may also have family responsibilities that extend beyond the classroom. To support themselves and their households financially, many commuter students work part-time or even full-time jobs on top of a full courseload of classes. Additionally, they often have to account for meals, transportation costs, and long commutes to school. In fact, such students may be more familiar with the day-to-day realities of adulthood than ones living on campus — though this is not to say that students in either position have it easier. 

Perhaps one of the greatest challenges for commuter students is building community when so many students live far away or lead busy lives outside of the classroom. At my commuter school, I initially struggled to make friends during my first few terms as a student.

 I go to Hunter College, a CUNY university located in NYC’s Upper East Side. Hunter is a product of its environment. Since real estate is precious, we have no sprawling green lawns, cozy inner courtyards, or acres of nature for students to wander along. Though students at Hunter often do not wander; just like our school, we are also products of New York City. Here, clocks tick faster, so we treat minutes like money. Hold on! A second just rolled under the couch – could you get it for me? Four minutes spent at the deli waiting for coffee. Four hours last night studying for that test — and even less spent sleeping. 

Pictured: Me, college student, at a time when I’d much rather be sleeping.

So, in the everyday math of time management, how do we make space for others? How do we forge relationships when it feels like nobody else is around — as if every undergrad is out for themselves? If you’re looking for a friend, you’re in luck. I’ll show you the ropes of relationship and community building at your commuter school. I’ll teach you how to make connections in unexpected places and resist the hustle culture that keeps you in isolation. If you’re looking for a friend, let me be your first one. 

Buy bubble tea with a friend! Or, if you’re lonely, save money and drink your feelings!

By Renee Ricevuto

Renee Ricevuto is pursuing a double major in English and Music at Hunter College, along with a certificate from the Thomas Hunter Honors Program. She has published her work at the University of Chicago’s Harper Review and received writing awards at her institution. She’s currently working on a research project with the Mellon Public Humanities and Social Justice Scholarship Program. When she’s not writing or researching, she loves to read, draw, sing, and embroider.


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