Why Work Out? Utilize College Discounts While You Can!

June 18th, 2013

According to the Harvard School of Public Health, college students should get at least one hour of physical activity per day.  But for many students, working out feels like an impossible task. Between classes, schoolwork, extracurricular activities, social life, love life, and sleep, it seems that there is simply not enough time in the day.

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However, making time to work out can benefit all students. Physical activity boosts productivity and clears the mind, gives positive energy and instills confidence to take on challenges. It also makes you feel good about yourself, boosting self-esteem, a serious concern for many college students.

A good workout is about balance, no matter your gender. Walking into a college gym, you usually find the women on the treadmills and elliptical machines, while the men lift weights. Oftentimes, men think that they need to lift weights and chug protein shakes in order to stay fit, while women tend to steer clear of the weight room because they fear looking like female bodybuilders. These beliefs are workout myths. Reaching a body type of a bodybuilder is unlikely without intense workouts, extreme dieting, and heavy supplementation. Weight-lifting can boost metabolism, improve posture, and build muscle, which helps burn fat faster; therefore, it can benefit both men and women. However, weight-lifting is not essential to staying fit. Alternative forms of exercise like biking and running benefit the heart and rest of the body in ways that weight-lifting does not.

But you don’t need to become a “gym rat” or a “fitness freak” to stay healthy and fit. There is a myriad of quick and easy ways to work out during your college years. Students can stay fit without even going to the gym through activities like bike rides, yoga, Zumba, swimming, team sports, parkour, or jogging outside with a friend. For those not sure where to start, Tao Yoga, Sacred Sounds Yoga, and Moksha Yoga in New York City are excellent for beginners and yoga masters alike.

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The hardest part is finding the motivation to go out and get moving. It is crucial to get into the habit of working out consistently while in college because once you have a full-time job and a family to support, the motivation is more likely to disappear.

Don’t get accustomed to a lethargic lifestyle, because it only gets harder to change. Go now, while you don’t need to pay for a gym membership. If a trip to the gym consumes too much time, complete a body weight workout in your dorm room or apartment. All it takes is 60 minutes a day to get on the right path.

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The New Museum: Free for NYU, Columbia, and CUNY Students with Student ID:

June 12th, 2013

Utilize the Freeseums program at NYU, Passport to Museums from Columbia, or Cultural Passport from CUNY!  There are a ton of museums accessible through your student ID card’s college discounts. New York City is a cultural center, and its universities know that students experience much of life outside of school, so they often give free passes to expensive places. Going to a museum can be a workout for your mind as well as a relaxing experience. You can contemplate an artist’s work or the historical context of a piece without worrying about homework attached to it!

Keep in mind also that these museums are almost certainly air-conditioned! In the heat of summer, museums are a great way to get out while staying inside so that you don’t melt. To top it all off, guided tours at many museums are free.

About the New Museum:

The New Museum is “New” because it exclusively houses contemporary art. It exhibits works by living artists from around the world and serves as a center for new ideas and reflection on the current time period. It is the place to view art from individuals who have directly experienced the pressures of the era you live in.

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The New Museum displays an array of exhibitions simultaneously. Currently showing are the After-after Tears exhibit on the fifth floor and Adhocracy (watch 3D printing in action!), both available until July 7. Multimedia installations from Erika Vogt and unsettling paintings by Llyn Foulkes are showing throughout the summer and into September.

Up until July 31, the experience truly begins before you even enter the museum, thanks to a 28-foot-tall rose on public display on the second floor balcony. Rose II is a sculpture by Isa Genzkin, a Berliner with a love affair for New York. Interested in integrating sculpture, nature, and architecture, Genzkin originally created this rose in 1993 as a symbol of tribute and love to the city.

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Isa Genzkin’s rose is installed on the New Museum, viewable from below as well.

As students of any subject, we are scholars of life. No matter what you study, whether biology, urban planning, music, or otherwise, there is sure to be something at the New Museum of interest to you. Practice thinking about the art you see through the lens of what you already know. You may be inspired forever, or maybe just for the day, or you may just keep the experience in the back of your mind for an essay or two later in your schooling (professors eat this kind of thing up). Either way, a visit to the New Museum is an inexpensive way to experience culture, and, since the exhibitions are constantly changing, no visit is ever the same.

The New Museum is on Bowery, just below Houston. The closest subway stations are the Prince Street N and R Station, the Bowery J station, and the Second Avenue F station.

Check out the New Museum’s past, current, and upcoming exhibitions: http://www.newmuseum.org/exhibitions

Plan your visit to the New Museum: http://www.newmuseum.org/visit

Nearby:
Housing Works: A charity bookstore cafe. Follow Prince Street to Crosby Street, and take a right.
Cafe Habana: Stop by for a torta or some tacos! On the corner of Prince and Elizabeth Streets, one block to the east of the museum.
SoHo: The New Museum is a short walk from Broadway, for all of your shopping needs.

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Claire M., NYU.

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Free Summer Concerts in NYC for College Savings

June 12th, 2013

Summer in NYC teems with fun, heat, and excitement, and there is nothing that encompasses all three of these qualities like a summer concert.  With thousands of concerts to choose from, and festivals such as Governors Ball and Electric Zoo, summer fun can leave your wallet aching and dry.  Luckily, for students lacking a handsome, continuous income, New York is chockfull of free concerts during these hot months.

A popular venue for free music fests lies downtown in South Street Seaport. Nestled comfortably east of the Financial District’s towering buildings, the Seaport Music Festival has brought a collection of talented artists (including Animal Collective, Abe Vigoda, The XX, and Asobi Seksu) to its famous Pier 17 for ten years. This year, artists such as Unknown Mortal Orchestra and Ex-Cults have been announced, with still more to come.  A great facet of this particular music festival is the spacing between the acts.  Instead of all these bands playing clogged together over a day or a few days, some bands begin playing on the first Friday in June, with the other acts playing on the subsequent three Fridays.  That’s already enough concerts to hold you over until July.
But if your insatiable desire for free concerts continues, South Street Seaport will be holding an all day festival after the Seaport Music Festival culminates. Sharing the beautiful seaside venue, the 4Knots Music Festival is guaranteed to melt your face off.  Fast, punkie, and unrelenting, the 4Knots festival features a group of musicians whose genres range from punk to psych rock.  Artists Kurt Vile, Parquet Courts, The Babies, and The Men shine in this year’s lineup, so get ready for a fast-dancing, sweaty, and fun time.

The most popular summer venue in NYC, however, is undoubtedly the Central Park Summer Stage.  In the next few months, the Summer Stage will host about twenty shows, more than half of which are free. The stage will see bands like Twin Shadow, The Airborne Toxic Event, and Django Django.  Music from all genres will play, so if certain acts don’t strike your fancy, don’t fret, because there will be plenty more to catch.

If you want to hang in a borough other than Manhattan, there are free concerts for you as well.  The Northside Festival has acts playing across venues around Williamsburg and Greenpoint in Brooklyn. With an integration of film and music, and boasting over 300 bands set to play from June 13th to 16th, the Northside Festival is an art-lover’s dream.  Unfortunately, the festival works like NYC’s fall CMJ festival, with an array of free events but some premiere showings that cost money.  But if you pick and choose carefully, you can attend the festival without dropping a dollar, like if you go to see The Walkman or Solange (Beyonce’s sister) for free with an RSVP at McCarren Park.

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There are too many opportunities for inexpensive fun, so be sure not to miss out. Make a plan, gather up some friends, and head out this summer to enjoy warm weather, good company, and great music!

 

 

 

Alejandro Font, Student at NYU.

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Small Language in a Big World: Latvian – To Preserve, Adapt, or Give Up?

March 7th, 2013

In a world where the value of the English language as a global social skill is becoming less a skill and increasingly a necessity, how do we convey to our children the importance of learning another, less frequently used language?  And, equally pressingly, how do we instill within them the desire to understand and voluntarily use that second language?  As the demand for and the convenience of using the English language, both within the US and beyond its borders, continues to grow, many other languages are finding themselves forced into a periphery.  It is precisely this issue that the Latvian language faces, and that several organizations within the US are trying to counter.

Where in the World. . . ?

Latvia, formerly part of the Soviet Union, has a long coastline on the Baltic Sea.

First problems first: the Latvian language, and the country of Latvia itself, is one that many people admit they have never heard of.  Located on the Baltic Sea and sandwiched between Estonia and Lithuania in Northern Europe, Latvia only established itself as a nation independent of the Soviet Union in 1991.  WWII marked the mass exodus of Latvians seeking haven from the war-torn country, many of them resettling in North America, where they integrated into American society, while simultaneously maintaining their Latvian cultural identity.  Now, however, two generations later, Latvian-American youths are finding themselves further removed from the Latvian culture, speaking a broken version of the language, and, as a remedy to both these issues, turning to summer camps as a form of heavy Latvian immersion and education.

Who Cares?

Lina Batarags, a 22-year-old from North Jersey, grew up speaking Latvian at home with her parents and her two brothers.  “We went to Latvian school every Saturday up through eighth grade, and every summer, all three of us went to Latvian summer camps, first in the Catskills (in New York), and later on to the Latvian Summer High School in Michigan,” she says.  “I had two sets of friends: my friends from school, and my Latvian friends.”  Now a college graduate, she is one of the many Latvian-Americans who dedicate their every summer to working at one of several Latvian summer camps across the US.

 

So, What Are You Going to Do About It?

These camps, such as the Latvian Church camp in Elka Park, New York, where she has worked for the past four years, are run exclusively in Latvian.  “All the kids, all the counselors, interact only in Latvian.  It can be challenging, but it remains the defining feature of the camp.”  In addition to acting as one of the places where kids are required to push themselves to regularly use and improve upon their language, the camp also teaches its campers cultural and historical values; educational lectures and lessons in traditional singing and dancing are two landmarks of the everyday schedule.

Campers and their counselors link hands into a chain on the first night of camp.

In addition to serving as one of the camp’s three lifeguards and as head counselor for one of the eleven cabins, Batarags ran the camp’s educational program last summer.  For about an hour every day, she organized lectures and activities revolving around the customs and lifestyles of Latvia’s initial proto-Baltic settlers.  Not the most captivating topic, perhaps, but, as she notes, “I was surprised to find how attentive and responsive the kids were.  They were asking questions, some of them more involved than I was prepared to answer. I got the feeling that they really took something away from it.”

Given that fluency in Latvian is a requirement to attend the camp, it may seem surprising that the size of the camp has grown steadily since its founding in 1956. In the summer of 2012, the camp hit its maximum capacity, with over 100 kids (from across the US, Canada, and Europe) attending.  “Our counselors range from teenagers to parents, from athletes to professional artists.  Probably the one, single thing common between all of us, is our Latvian heritage — and our active desire to ensure its longevity.”

On Quality Control

Asked about the quality of the language, both at the camp and in comparison to previous generations, Batarags says, “I definitely think that our understanding and mastery of the language has become diluted as it has been passed down from generation to generation.  However,” she goes on to say, “I think that this is an inevitable shift.  My every day, except for the summer months, is conducted in English; of course I am going to be able to write better, to speak more easily, in English.”

Campers line up for the daily raising of the two flags - Latvian and American.

She makes a point of stressing that although higher proficiency in English than in Latvian does seem natural, this discrepancy should not be a result of a decreasing ability to speak Latvian; instead, it should be the result of ever-increasing proficiency in the English language.  “We continue to use and develop our English language skills, but this should not come at the cost of another language,” she says.  “As kids growing up in America find themselves with fewer opportunities to speak Latvian, their grammatical abilities, their innate sense for the language drops accordingly.  With this summer camp, we get one month’s time, sometimes less, to try and surround these kids with as much Latvian exposure as possible, in the hopes that they will continue to speak Latvian outside of the camp’s boundaries, too.”

So, why is it so important for kids and adults alike to continue practicing and developing their ability to express themselves in Latvian?  As Batarags puts it, “If we’re going to continue calling ourselves Latvians, I think it is essential that we be able to speak the language.  Otherwise, we’ll be able to discuss Latvian things, Latvian cultures, Latvian traditions, but only as outsiders.  Something intrinsically important, some building block of a culture, disappears when its language disappears.”

 

Variations on a Theme

Batarags notes that the Latvian language is developing in several different strains. “In America, most of us speak the ‘old’ language, which our grandparents taught us.  It’s quite different from the Latvian currently being spoken in Latvia, where a wider array of Russian and English words is commonly integrated into everyday speaking.”  The different developments within the language, primarily geographically based, aptly reflect the different ways the culture is developing in Latvia and abroad, respectively.  In this sense, the language tracks major shifts and movements in a culture.  “In the US, many of us regard the language as something to be preserved, to be kept as it once was, and purposely try to steer clear of mixing English and Latvian words.  But in Latvia itself, which is more concerned with staying globally relevant than it is with staying linguistically ‘pure,’ we see other, widely used languages beginning to infiltrate and to heavily affect the vocabulary.”  Each version of the language with its morphing linguistic patterns can be praised and faulted accordingly; undeniably, however, each is as relevant and necessary to its own culture as it is incompatible with its counterpart.

In the summer of 2012, the camp was home to over 100 campers and more than 30 counselors/personnel.

In addition to the summer weeks she dedicates to the camp, Batarags also currently serves as the co-editor of the Latvian American Youth Association’s (ALYA) bi-monthly newsletter.  “We have several regular contributors, such as people writing about Latvia’s economic situation, its ever-changing politics; other articles we have to specifically ask for, or write ourselves.”  Each edition of the newsletter is written entirely in Latvian, which Batarags describes as yet another great opportunity to use the language, and to expose others to it.  “Our articles are specifically written about and tailored to our audience, so I think people are genuinely interested to read them. . . . The fact that they’re reading them in Latvian is an added bonus!  It’s a great way to keep in touch with people, and to keep people in touch with each other.”

The opportunities to keep the language alive, as Batarags has and continues to demonstrate, are available: they just have to be sought out.  And in this case, it is imperative that the chances for consistent language use and improvement be capitalized upon.  Fortunately, she is far from alone in her beliefs and endeavors. “I’m only one of many people looking to keep the language alive and relevant today.  It’s an ongoing network in which all generations work together to influence and educate each other. I hope — and really do think — that we can keep it going.”

 

Written by Lina Batarags, February 2013.

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Burgers and Milkshakes and Fries, Oh My!

March 7th, 2013

If you’re an avid cheeseburger and fries eater as I am, you’ll love to hear about Burger Creations. Located at 52 E 8th Street in Manhattan, Burger Creations is in the heart of the NYU area and the college hangout. Burger Creations is a clean place with a contemporary look and a laid back atmosphere. With soccer playing on the TV and the Black Eyed Peas playing on the radio, it is easy to feel relaxed and at home. As popular as it is for students, it’s popular also among businessmen and women, particularly around one o’clock when they come for lunch, packing the small establishment. In fact, when I visited around this time with a friend, we decided to come back in an hour so that we could get a place to sit without feeling like we should rush out. Around two o’clock, the hustle and bustle of the lunch hour had subsided and the two of us returned with empty stomachs and high expectations.

As hungry as I was, I wasn’t disappointed. With over ten varieties of burgers, including everything from the original cheeseburger to burgers inspired by Japanese and Hawaiian cuisine, there is certainly an array to choose from. Burger Creations also offers a variety of sides: onion rings, regular fries, sweet potato fries, house salad, chicken fingers, and even three varieties of chicken wings! They also serve milkshakes and classic American sandwiches like the BLT. I chose the traditional route to see what Burger Creations could do with the good ole cheeseburger with everything on it, including some avocado and a side of onion rings.

If you’re a visual person, then you’ll love to see your burger being made through the glass separating customers and the kitchen. Freshly ground meat from the burgers is seasoned and paired with freshly cut vegetables through quick and friendly service. If you don’t want to peek into the kitchen, then you can rely on your nose as the smell of burgers perfumes the air and wakens your taste buds.

Compared to other burger places, the burgers at Burger Creations might seem small at first. But I left feeling extremely full and surprised at how perfectly portioned my meal was. Deliciously displayed in a pressed brioche bun that doesn’t overpower the burger and its fresh ingredients, my perfectly moist traditional cheeseburger burger was spot-on for any cheeseburger and fries lover.

 

 

 

With delivery and catering services available, you can have Burger Creations for your every culinary need. I will for sure come back and take the untraditional route  with something from the “Creative Burgers” menu. With the variety of unique burger combinations at Burger Creations, you can’t know what a burger is capable  of until you’ve tasted one made by the professionals. These are not your dollar menu burgers, with $7 being a typical price, but you get what you pay for and more: a juicy, seasoned burger made from in-house ground meat and cooked to your liking, a selection of toppings and sides, a bun that does more than just hold it all together, as well as a burger experience your taste buds have never had before. Also, if you’re a student, Burger Creations offers a discount with your student ID, and it accepts NYU Campus Cash. Who can beat that?!

Download the coupon below, to receive a student discount for Burger Creations.

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Coffee as a Health Drink

February 27th, 2013

Know any coffee addicts? I never had a taste for coffee in high school, but long nights and early mornings in college seemed to push me towards it. I’m not hooked on the stuff (my roommate last year used to drink around four cups a day — yikes!), but I do enjoy a cup every so often (as in “Oh my gosh, this project is due tomorrow and I still haven’t started it” kind of often). And while this habit of mine may not be the healthiest in terms of sleep scheduling, early birds and night owls alike will be happy to learn of some research that’s been happening over the past few years assessing the possible health benefits of drinking coffee.

The ingredients in coffee are beneficial on a few fronts:

Life Expectancy— Coffee is loaded with antioxidants and compounds that ward off a number of diseases. According to the The New York Times’ Well blog, regular coffee-drinkers are 15% less likely to die of “diabetes, heart disease, respiratory disease, stroke, [and] infections.” This is based on a fourteen-year government study that included over 400,000 adult men and women. I was a little surprised to read this, since all that I’d ever heard about coffee was that it stunts your growth and makes your heart race.

Mood Elevation— This one’s specifically for women, although there have been studies that have found similar results in men. Evidently, the caffeine in coffee has a lifting effect on our moods that doesn’t occur in other sources of caffeine. In fact, this study shows that the risk of depression is 20% lower in women who drink coffee daily than in those who don’t, and the more of it they drink, the lower the risk drops. I knew lattes put me in a good mood . . .

Workout Endurance— You may already have heard that caffeine can boost our workout. Basically, it promotes the production of fatty acids in the blood, which your body burns in place of carbs for fast energy. This is true for endurance sports like running and swimming, but another article on the Wellblog talks about the ways in which it can also be beneficial to sports with short bursts of activity, like soccer and weightlifting. In this study, athletes

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who were given caffeine before their workouts were able to exercise for longer without becoming exhausted, and they felt better and more energised afterwards. Coffee as a sports drink? I’ll take it.

Of course it’s never healthy to drink beverages that are full of sugar and cream, so keep this in mind when you make your morning cup. You don’t have to be a coffee addict like my old room mate to get excited about this research!

While you’re on your coffee-kick, here’s a free cup on us! Enjoy!

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Open Season: The Job Hunt

February 26th, 2013

Sometimes jobs fall right into people’s laps, and in today’s economy we entry-level folk go to sleep at night hoping to wake up to a missed call and voicemail from an unknown phone number with a genial stranger—probably named Steve—asking us to come down for an interview that is really just a formality because he is dying to give us a job and full benefits and make sure we don’t fall behind on student loan payments.

When I wake up and check my phone, I find nothing of the sort, so I check my Facebook and Twitter and my email and decide to make some coffee. I decide that although my milk was “BEST BY” three days ago, I will drink it anyway because it will probably still be “WELL ABOVE AVERAGE BY” tomorrow. I pour it into my cereal and begin scrolling through Craigslist once again.

I check my email and Facebook and force myself back to Craigslist and Indeed and wish there was a filter for applications that require cover letters. I taste that the milk in my cereal is a little “off” and now I really begin looking for a job. I find four entry-level positions in my field and then learn that the “desired applicants” should have two years of previous experience. I find myself asking what “entry-level” means in 2013, and I linger and wonder if it is worth submitting my resume and writing another cover letter. I slurp down the milk left in the bowl, breathe in that sour smell, gag a little, take a deep breath and start writing that cover letter.

As someone who didn’t apply for jobs until after graduation, I regret not getting started sooner. If you’re still a student, do what you can to find an internship while you’re still in school! Yes, it will probably be an unpaid, thankless job, but it will be worth it in the end. You’ll have some of that mysterious, required “previous experience” by the time you graduate, which will help raise you above much of the competition. The connections you’ll make can only benefit you in the long run and you may even be hired as a paid employee after your internship has been fulfilled. You won’t be one of those college graduates stretching the truth about his/her “previous experience,” and you’ll have some legitimate references that aren’t your uncle or your roommate.

One way to think of your time as an intern.

The best thing to do is to get your name out there. Apply, apply, apply. Network. Send out your resume. Take the time to go to a Career Fair at your school and hand your resume out like you’re one of those comedy club promoters in Midtown. Take advantage of your school’s career center and its counselors. Ask the counselors to help you write and review your resume, ask them about career options relevant to your major, and attend workshops with interviewing tips from recruiters. Just get out there and profit from the resources your school created to help you.

...really, though: now what?

Talk to family members, family friends, friends, friends of friends, professors—the people who want to see you succeed. Sure, not everyone wants to give into some form nepotism, but beggars can’t be choosers. You will be the one making your way in this world, so why not let the people who care about you give you a hand?

You may find that the first jobs that are most attainable to you are jobs that are only appealing because of potential paychecks. These are the jobs that we are only half-interested in and are scared to step into in fear that we might get stuck. These are the cold coffee of the entry-level world: you need that little pick-me-up, but you have to force it down, and it may make you crash in the near future, but right now it is here when nothing else is. Deciding can be difficult, but why not take the job? You may really enjoy it once you get into the swing of things and there is no reason why you can’t continue your job-hunt on the side. If you’re still unsure, then try finding two part-time jobs in different fields you may be interested in and decide after a few weeks or months which career you’d like to pursue further. You have more time than you think to figure things out. It is common to not find a real career until a few years out of college.

Hopefully it never comes to this.

Patience and persistence are two traits you should embody as you begin your job hunt. It is tough out there right now, everyone knows it, but you can’t wait around for Steve the Genial Stranger to come looking for you with a salary job, some fresh milk and a hot coffee. You have to get out there and shake hands and answer questions and ask questions and write what seems like too many cover letters and then, hopefully, some genial stranger—probably named Steve—will call you with a job offer.

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The Rules and Relationships in the 21st Century

February 21st, 2013

Have you ever heard of The Rules? It’s a book compiling a guide to “finding Mr. Right,” and if you think that’s hilarious then you’re definitely on my side. Relationships are tricky, but do we really need a book telling us exactly how to act? Still, judging a book by its cover, I opened it up and started reading. Twelve pages in, I sensed a huge flashback: “In a relationship the man must take charge.” Call me a feminist, because I am, but these so-called rules are so backwards it’s painful. In this day and age it’s ridiculous to think that a man has to be in control all the time. Where would the world be without powerful women taking charge for themselves?

Do you think Beyoncé gives all the power to Jay-Z? I think not.

A Rules girl is not to offer to pay, not to speak unless spoken to, and to basically avoid phone calls, and lie to anyone who asks about The Rules. You also have to be “a creature unlike any other,” but you can’t give too much of yourself away. Don’t even think about flirting and showing off your sparkling personality—he has to work for everything.

According to The Rules: “Put lipstick on even when you’re jogging” (21).  This is, of course, because you constantly have to impress a man, which is unnecessary. While you have to be impressive, it is all about him doing everything. He is the one to approach you, ask you out, and make the plans. He’s even the one who has to keep conversation going. If you do anything, you will lose the mystery and he’ll get bored. It’s all a game and you are the challenge that men are seeking.

It is still nice for a guy to do a little extra work.

These ideas just don’t work in the 21st century. Men and women are equal. It is perfectly okay for women to be in charge, and it is definitely okay for a woman to go up to a man and start conversation. I, personally, lost any chance I had with a certain man because I was never the one to initiate conversation. He told me it felt like I wasn’t interested, so he moved on. But, according to The Rules, starting conversation will take away a man’s power and he will never actually love you. I just don’t see how placing everything in the man’s hands is helpful for anyone. Relationships involve two people, so putting all the pressure of conversation and dates (and everything else) all on one person completely throws off any sense of balance—something that The Rules is seriously lacking.

Besides a decent amount of good advice, like: don’t stalk the guy you’re interested in, have a life of your own, and don’t make him a center of your life, there is also some really harmful advice. The focus that they place on body image is worrisome: “If you have a bad nose, get a nose job” (21), “overweight is not The Rules” (131), and other instances where weight or style choice is brought up. Many women today have to deal with a lot of stress about how they look, and for a book to promote harmful self-image rules, directed towards women, is dangerous. It should be about accepting who you are and finding a man who loves you for that—not about changing everything about yourself and hoping the dropped pounds will magically draw men to you. The best relationship advice is to love yourself before someone else can love you, but once again The Rules doesn’t see that.

If you’re looking to find help for relationships, don’t go to The Rules. Trust yourself, love yourself. Don’t over-think—sometimes it’s best to just see where it all goes. Life isn’t solely about being in a romantic relationship; it’s also about friends and family and developing yourself. So even around Valentine’s Day and other couple-specific times, don’t get discouraged. Grab a good friend and go see a Rom-Com and laugh about stupid dating advice. You’re too awesome to handle anyway!

                                                                                                                              

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Don’t Rely on the Comfort of Dorm Rooms

February 15th, 2013

The move to college doesn’t just represent a change in atmosphere, it also introduces a new group of people to live and get along with. Sure, everyone has had to deal with family members hogging the bathroom or waking you up with their annoying habits, but now you have new roommates: people your own age placed into a tiny room with you where you all have to learn to get along. These are your peers, and since you’ve just moved to college, you probably feel the need to make as many friends as possible.

Roommates are often a college student’s first introduction to college life, which is why many people cling to their first roommates. While being friends with roommates is a great thing and can ease the transition, it is necessary not to limit yourself to the people you live with. Though you will spending a lot of time together, having friends outside of your room will help you to stay your own person. Living as a college student, especially in New York, offers a huge amount of space (literally and figuratively) for you to grow and find yourself. Limiting yourself to the confines of your room takes away from all the greatness that is offered around you.

Go out! See a show! Don’t just stay in the room watching Lifetime movies because your roommates are lazy. Get rush tickets and hit up the TKTS Booth in Times Square for cheap seats!

If it turns out that your roommate is not that friendly, don’t get discouraged! As my mother likes to say, “It’s their loss.” You’re living together, and as long as you get along within the room, that’s often good enough.

If there are issues between you, then it is necessary to take care of these things before they escalate.

Don't let things get too out of hand. It may not be an ideal room, but at least keep it pleasant!

Many people find it helpful to create roommate agreements. These can include anything from schedules for cleaning the bathroom to rules for overnight guests (an important one if either of you find yourself with a clingy significant other always lying around). While the drafting and discussion of agreements for living together sound ridiculous, it is a very good idea for the establishment of good roommate relations. The agreement puts everything on the table and opens up an avenue for discourse if any problems arise.

 

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US News has great advice for roommate situations, and the most important is to communicate. Living together means you have to be able to talk to one another and understand each other. Even if you aren’t friends, you should still be able to talk and feel comfortable in your new home. If you don’t, make sure to confront your roommate personally and air any grievances. Do not go around them and move out without them knowing. It is best in roommate situations to eliminate any sort of animosity that could arise.

Just be yourself and find your own niche in your dorm room. College life is meant to be an exploration of culture and life — not four years of cinder block walls with people who limit you.

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Jen Orlando, Manhattan College. Check out my blog! Follow me on twitter!

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Breathe, Repeat.

February 15th, 2013

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Being a college student is all about new experiences: new people, new classes, new living situations – the list can often seem daunting and never-ending.  In the process of creating this exciting new life, it’s easy for us to get caught up in the whirlwind of it all, and even easier to lose track of the person who matters most when it comes to the state of our happiness – ourselves.

Friends, significant others, co-workers, parents, or any combination of the above are always competing for our attention.  Everyone wants a piece of us – who wouldn’t, right? We’re twenty-something and fabulous! – but there’s not always enough of us to go around, so the only solution can often seem to be spreading ourselves thin enough to reach a little bit of everyone.  However, bending over backwards, sideways and every other which way trying to please everybody else is exhausting, and it more often than not leaves us in a contorted mess while the rest of the world continues to breeze by us with their morning coffee.

If one day you wake up and suddenly realize that you have in fact become guilty of this crime, never fear!  It happens to the best of us from time to time.  According to a study entitled “The American Freshman: National Norms Fall 2010,” out of 200,000 freshman students who were currently enrolled full-time at a four-year college, only 52 percent of them classified their mental health state as “above average” – a number that has fallen considerably from 64 percent in 1985.  Many factors contributed to this decline, including the economy, rising tuition prices, job prospects, and constant self-comparison to peers.

Luckily, there are lots of easy ways to combat these pesky stresses of everyday life.  Professionals at the Mayo Clinic encourage the practice of relaxation techniques to help rid your life of stress so you are always feeling at the top of your game.  Whether it’s yoga, visualization methods, or T’ai Chi, find something that works for you and keep at it!  These techniques are just like any other skill-set; they will take work and repetition, but eventually will pay off.

Whenever I am feeling bogged down by relationship drama, school, or life in general, I try to consciously remind myself to breathe – just breathe – for maybe 10 or 15 seconds at a time.  And then I do it again.  It may seem simple or trivial, but it works.  Get outside, take a walk through SoHo for some window shopping, sit in Washington Square Park and watch all of the tourists fawning over the pigeons, get coffee on the Upper West Side and walk around pretending like you’re part of the Gossip Girl crew – the specifics don’t matter as long as you are continuously reminding yourself to breathe.

As you’re walking and breathing, think about all of the things in your life that make you happy.  Then think about the things in your life that don’t make you happy.  Now make a promise to yourself that you will do more of those things that make you happy, and vow to do less of the things that don’t.  This is the time to take that kickboxing class you’ve wanted to take but just somehow haven’t found the time.  Or maybe make plans to put on some lipstick and that favorite dress that you never get to wear and go out with your friends for a night of feeling pretty and good about yourself.

After all, we live in New York City! Get out there and make use of the urban playground that is waiting right outside your door.  Just don’t forget to take a few seconds every day to remember who you are and what makes you happy, and, whatever you do during this time, don’t forget to breathe.

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Lesley Hennen, New York University. Check out my Twitter!

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